Hi everyone, newbie here + I need to rant

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Hi, I'm 16 with Aspergers Syndrome, in grade 11 of high school... And I'm pretty pissed right now with my life, going through depression and self-doubt and a bunch of other s**t.
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Its the girls, I crave female attention, not even to get laid, I just want to have contact with a girl, I swear I need it so bad and it's killing me inside. I'm at least decent looking (I've been told I'm hot but because my social skills hamper me so much I swear sometimes I think I'm so ugly). It's all a social dance, and I know f**k all about it.
Sorry I'm angry I'll give you guys a better story about me when I'm feeling better, if your interested. I know aspies are caring people, we've been through so much.
Look forward to meeting some of you.

welcome. rant on.

Nice to meet you, DeGenisis.

Went through the same thing here too.

Hi DeGenisis,

welcome to WP.

Trust me, girls aren't all they're made out to be. Some of them are extremely B*tchy, they are more judgemental than other guys and a LOT more focused on being "socially correct" [whatever that may be]. Heck, I am a girl and seriously wonder what the heck is wrong with us!
There are some nice girls out there though i would think...it's just a matter of finding them first which is often the hard part.

People here are pretty nice so i'm sure that if you stick around long enough you'll get to make some great contacts.

you'd be surprised how much of that is just being 16... it's the approach that's more challenging. Hope it all works out. You have a sympathetic ear here...

Welcome DeGenisis we love ranting here

Welcome DeGenisis,

If I could go back to being in YR 11, things would be very different.

All I can tell you is that there are obviously a lot of girls at your school (or wherever) that think that you're hot but won't tell you. They're waiting for you.

Pick one that responds when you talk to her. Just go to maccas after school (shout her a drink). I know it's not great but it will do for a start.

If that's too hard, consider a girl a couple of years below you. They'll be looking up at you in awe, ('cos you're a senior).

Give it a go. That's how I met my wife.

To WrongPlanet!! !

Welcome to the forum, DeGenisis!!

I swear you are exactly the way I was at your age. I haven't had much luck with women yet but I'm not really trying very hard either, just waiting for the right one to come along. I'm currently practicing social skills so I can be ready when that woman comes along. Hang in there DeGenisis!

Welcome DeGenesis,

I just joined WP a week ago, and the welcome I got was so warm that I want to pass some of it on to you--and you really need it right now.

We all know what you're going through. At lest you know what you are. When I was your age (a long time ago) Asperger's wasn't on the books yet. I didn't have a clue to my own AS until in was 39, and I didn't get my official diagnosis until 44. Now I've got over 40 years worth of embarrassment and hurt feelings to work through.

I dare say you've been spared much of this.

My advice is to keep talking to us. I for one would love to hear you rant.

Also, you can't be the only Aspie in your community. Look up an autism group in your area and meet others like yourself. Believe me when I say you are in better shape than a lot of us were at your age. Now has never been a better time to be autistic.

Hang in there, kiddo. And you can look me up anytime.

David

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

If I ever get married, it'll be the more common way.

I hope you enjoy posting here!

Well what do you know this girl I met at a party a while back sent me a pm on facebook saying she thinks I'm hot. Her profile say shes looking for random play, so I'm trying to figure out my next move (I haven't sent anything back yet). Ideas? Not often this opportunity comes up...

Very nice!

I understand it doesn't happen all that often!

Welcome to WP!

Listen to me closely, DeGenisis. You are an Aspie, and that means you lack common sence if you are anything like the rest of us. It means you tend to talk to people you shouldn't be talking to and you trust people you shouldn't trust. I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 22, and, like the young lady who PM'd you, she was a dream made to order south of the border. She turned out to be a socialized sociopath--for real. When she was done chewing me up and spitting me out, I weighed in at 113 pounds and was suicidal. That was over 20 years ago, and I never completely recovered.

I don't want to scare you, but you need to be aware that the predatory character disordered (sociopaths, narcissists, etc.) prey on Aspies like you. Young Aspies make the perfect targets because they are so gullible and easy to manipulate.

Please look before you leap. I know it's hard to think with your big head instead of your little one, especially at your age, but you must. You don't want to wind up emotionally abused and with an STD.

Okay? Good.

David

I just read my last post, and I think I may have given you the wrong idea. So let me make a correction. I was emotionally abused by a sociopath, but she did NOT--I repeat, did NOT--give me an STD. I just wanted to warn you to keep make you aware of what could happen if you get involved with the wrong girl. Anything could happen.