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27 Apr 2008, 4:40 am

Hello all.
I'm joining this post as it seems fairly likely that my 4 year old son is on the Spectrum. Kind of scared here and wanting to be able to connect with others that have faced the challenge of raising a child with an ASD. His preschool has made the recommendation he should have an evaluation, but as I am not the parent with custody and his mother is not willing to look into this I have held off on pursuing and eval. But this evening we had a problem where he had taken something of my girlfriends and could not effectively communicate or seem to understand us asking him where it was. My girlfriend got extremely angry about this and blamed my parenting for it. What I perceived was my son unable to answer her questions, trying hard to do so, and then shutting down emotionally because it was too much for him to handle. This has been an ongoing issue so I tried backing up my girlfriends lead and wound up spanking my son for the first time, which I hated. I absolutely don't know where to go from here with this. The preschool gave some numbers to my sons Mom, but I don't have them and believe I will have a hard time getting them. I'm also starting to think I will have to end the relationship I am in as my gilrfriend seems to not want to understand although she has training in working with autistic kids and has the opinion that yes my son is on the spectrum. But it doesn't seem to me like she considers that in situations like we had last night. I'm really wanting to do what is best for my son. He's the sweetest kid in the world, but he just doesn't seem to be able to communicate very well.

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27 Apr 2008, 6:11 am

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27 Apr 2008, 8:18 am

Welcome, Ahren's Dad!

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27 Apr 2008, 8:53 am

Welcome to WP!

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27 Apr 2008, 9:04 am

Nice to meet you, ahrensdad.

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27 Apr 2008, 9:53 am

Hi ahrensdad,

welcome to WP.

The sooner your son gets a diagnosis, the better.
Check out the parents forum. There are many parents who will be willing to offer advice/share experiences with you.

I hope you enjoy posting here.

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