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my dear friend told me to come to this site and that i might learn some things...
My name is gypsy..I am 37 years old...it wasnt until my nephew was diagnosed with aspergers,that they started questioning things with me..My sister actually said i should be tested..
I am not social at all..
I do not have friends .(some people do not believe me when i say this but ,i really do not have any).in the real world that is..i have tons of friends on the internet though.
I am constantly being diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder.
i can not stand certain noises..humming,whistling,tapping,fabric shifting against each other making that swooshing noise...
I tend to rock when i am very upset..
I always think that people hate me,or if a group of people just start laughing,i think it is about me...vain i know.
I destroy relationships when i just cant handle the emotional attachement anymore.it just gets too overwhelming.
I have panic attacks...over things that havent happend yet or probably wont ever happen..
I tend to get overly mad..there is never a happy medium..if i am mad,i am spitting nails mad...and i dont get over it easily...
i dont seem to be able to hold a job..usually because of the above mentioned..
well,i think i have mentioned a good majority of my weird quirks..i really dont mean to offend anyone with my comments or anything..im just not sure what to say...
i really think this is a great site..from what i have read so far..i hope to learn more about my weird quirks....
oh,and one thing i did notice while reading..i dont look into peoples eyes either..i can not...when i was a kid i got into so much trouble for not looking my parents in the eyes when i was being scolded..they would literally move my face to look at them..
i was also diagnosed as special ed as a kid...i wasnt special ed..I just could not comprehend a good majority of what they were saying in class..if i read it it made sense to me..
I did get my ged and i did put myself into college..i also took a comprehension class before i started college..which helped with being able to learn things that helped me absorb what the instructor was saying.
oh yea and i tend to babble......
thanks for listening...hope to learn more....i am planning on going to the doctor on the 15th of november and i am going to mention being tested for this..

Welcome Gypsy! I'm glad this site was recommended to you.

If you are interested in getting a dignoises, be aware that you will need to find someone with experience in Autism Spectum Disorders in Adults. So often adults have developed enough coping methods that it takes someone who can really look at the whole person to determine what is going on.

Both my children are special ed. And gifted. One is on the spectum, the other is not. Special education today is a whole lot different than when I went to school.

Again, welcome!


BeeBee

hello,i am sorry i didnt mean to offend about the special ed comment...i do have two children in special ed..and you are right,nowadays is a whole lot different from when i was a kid..I think it is a great program..when i was in school,basically they stuck you in there when they didnt know what else to do with you....I knew how to do the work in the regular class ,I just could not get in front of the class and give speeches,i could not raise my hand and draw attention to myself,I could not stand out in a crowd...I withdrew..and i could not understand what the teacher was saying..it didnt absorb..it went in one ear and straight out the other side....i was labeled a rebelious kid and defiant...so,they put me in the special ed class and left me..again,not that there is anything wrong with special ed..I guess i should have worded it differently..i apologize.
and thank you for the information about getting the right doctor..i appreciate that..

Hi Gypsy. You sound like youll fit right in here!

No problem.

And I agree. Special ed used to be the dumping ground.

Do you have two children then, or more? Mine are 12 and 14 years old. Its the first year in high school for the older one. So far, so good with him. The younger is failing ALL his classes this term. He's a smart cookie but, like you, hates to have attention on himself so he withdraws, sometimes to far.

BeeBee

I guess I should be polite and say Hello.
I only joined yesterday, but I've learnt alot. I'm not sure I have Aspergers, but now it seems likely to an extent I do.

I understand what you mean about the whole people laughing I always think people are sharing a joke at my exspense.

I actually have four children...one is 19 and married...highly gifted when it comes to school...they wanted to put her two grades ahead..i refused to allow them to do that..for social reasons..and maturity...
my second is 18...he is very social,very well adapted to interacting with others..great kid..
my third is 16,she is in special ed..doesnt give a hoot about school...she is kindof the flip side of me..she loves the attention..she loves to be the center of all that is going on....grades are terrible....I think she is basically too wrapped up in the boys thing right now to care about school.
my fourth turns 15 on saturday..he is in special ed also..grades are terrible..he has some serious learning difficulties..He was a premie..and they said he would have some learning disabilities..But,mechanically he can build and tear apart anything that has to do with cars and motors..He is like me..He hates to have attention..he withdraws,kindof like you said...sometimes too much....he wont stand up and say when he needs something because he doesnt want to draw attention.
Both of my two youngest kids had lead poisoning when they were little..they lived with their grandparents and were subjected to lead paint...and the doctors said it would affect their learning.......

I did take that quiz and it said i am highly likely an aspie...It would explain so much if i am..it would finally put a name with some things..I have learned a lot from my nephew too..learning how to communicate with him was very difficult but,also very enlightening..i learned about the touch that he does not like...you can not hug him lightly..if you hug my nephew you have to hug him heavy if that makes sense...not too heavy but,if you hug him lightly he will pull away and scream..if you hug him firmly he is ok..and he will actually hug back then...I am the same way..i do not like the soft gentle hugs..hug me firmly or Not at all..I upset people alot when i am like that..i try to hide that it makes me uncomfortable but,it doesnt always work..and they tend to feel rejected by me...this is a very difficult thing when you have children..they do not understand that...
I babysat my nephew once and,when he flinched at noises i noticed i was flinching at the same noises..only i dont grab my ears,i pull at them and try to make the noise go away..like that will help....
i have an unusual sense of smell and my hearing is way out there..i hear things others dont..drives people nuts when i keep telling them to knock it off or stop doing whatever it is they are doing...and i am in the other room....
you all have been so kind,thank you very much and i appreciate the welcome...
as i said i babble a lot so i apologize if i do that here...

Hello Gypsy my good friend. I so glad to see you here. I know you will learn a lot and fit right in. I am sure you will be able to talk to other mothers and people who are finding their way in the world also. There are a great people here. Welcome!!

thank you tere..i am reading a lot and not quite sure where i fit in but,i am reading and a lot of things are clicking with me...i mean,several of the things that other people do,i do the same thing...and i thought it was just me....
thank you for telling me about this site...i appreciate that..

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet! I hope you enjoy posting here!

Gypsy I know you will like it here. It does take time to go through everything. Also, check out the links. It is a wealth of information.

Welcome, Gypsy.

Far be it from me to run round making uninformed diagnoses, but if you ask me, pretty much everything you have said sounds like classic Aspergers... bearing in mind of course that there IS not classic for Aspergers!

Welcome to WrongPlanet, where other people also feel the urge to scream or hit the roof everytime someone shifts in their seat and makes a shuffly sound with their pants!

Its much better when someone else tells you that you have aspergers. I had come to terms that I was different because I wasn't making enough effort to fit in, but trying to fit in was too exhausting for me. When I was told by a few people they thought I had aspergers I decided to find out more about it, and it all fell into place. No doubt whatsoever.