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Hi everyone. I joined a few days ago and lurked on a few threads getting the feel of things. My sweet little boy, who is about to turn 4 in 2 weeks, is going in for his evals this afternoon. I'll most likely haunt the parent's forum than any other forum. Since suspecting that my son has Asperger's I have a new obsession, oh did I say obsession? Since researching this topic I have since come to suspect that the apple didn't fall far from the tree and that alot of the things I did as a child, that my mother always said was normal, was in fact not normal. I'm comfortable with not getting a Dx for myself, I've adapted to my enviornment fairly well, I'm happily married and there are no issues, my husband puts up with my wierdness and non of it bothers him, personally I think he's happy that I need my space and give him space of his own. I do have 'issues' when in the work enviornment, but currently I'm a SAHM so that's really a non-issue until the kids start school and I can rejoin the work force.

Some of the things that have tipped my off as to why I think I have it:

1: I stemmed as a kid, altho my mother won't admit it to this day. When I was extremely upset and I couldn't function I would hide under a blanket and rock....and rock...and rock.....for hours until I fell asleep from exhaustion from crying and rocking furiously.

2: I had issues in school, I would get up and walk around the class room and socialize with the other students, disrupting class. My teacher at the time, would hold my face and speak directly to me, which to this day, I have to look at persons face to focus on what they are saying or I zone out. Talking on the phone with me is a challenge.

3: Friends? What friends? I want them, I will have them for a short time, most of the time people drive me nuts, with how fussy they are about every little thing, or I fail at keeping in touch with them. I fail at that ALOT. I don't have the ability to reach out. As a kid, we moved alot, and I always was jazzed about making new friends, but then that never happened, maybe one or two but I got into more fights with other kids than not.

4: I used words that were more advanced than my age, and I read at a higher age group as a kid. I was an insane avid reader and would read books at a rate even the librarian couldn't keep up with. I suck at math but do great at science and english and cann't get enough art and crafts into a day.

5: I'm such a great researcher because I obsess. When I become obsessed with a subject I can amass a ton of information on that subject in a short amount of time. When my obsession is over with, I walk away with out much of a thought. This drives people around me nuts til they get to know that's just how I am. People tend to chock it up to "artistic nature".

6: I need structure. I was told once that I was 'walling' my self up and needed to be a 'free-spirit', what a disaster that was. Nor rules or structure and I was a mess within a week.

7: The friends I have are generally younger than me or older than me, I never felt like I fit in with my peers. EVER. My husband is 10 years younger than me.

8: I would run away from school when the kids would get too mean to me. Actually alot more started to present it's self when I hit 5th grade, my parents and myself for years thought it was just because it was a new school and they were just mean kids, small town so there was only 7 kids in my class at the time. Now I'm thinking, while yeah they were viscious kids I also was having other issues, kwim.

9: I never, EVER felt/feel like I was normal and belonged. I always felt inferior to me peer group in every way. I don't like small talk and cann't do it, I feel it's presenting 'false pretenses' and is a waste of time. I don't show emotions, like smiling unless I absolutly have to, so working as a waitress was tricky for me, I would smile at a table I was serving but when I walked away I would stop and become emotionless, I would get into trouble for it, my reasoning was/is 'it's a waste of energy'. But on the other hand I'm over emotional, and will start crying the moment anyone looks like they are going to get mad at me. I used to be confronted alot for staring at people, but iin reality I was just watching them and how they reacted to certain situations. Something that drives friends away from me, I start adapting thier mannerisms, not intentionally, but because I want to react like I think other people will find acceptable, make sense of that lol.

There's alot more other stuff, I find out more and more as my mom opens up more about how my son is like me, things she wouldn't talk about before, not to mention things I do know about myself and the light bulb goes off. Anyways, thanks for letting me get all that out.

Now I just need to get my little boy sorted out. Way more important than the what if's are the what now's.

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Magliabechi.

Welcome to the forums.

You sound like you educated yourself well in the subject. I wish more parents of potential ASD children were like you. Some children are probably guaranteed 100% not to have ASD, but their parents are willing to risk their childrens' lives by not giving them vaccines than risk having them get ASD (which is a total bunk theory anyways).

Nice to meet you, Xinae.

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Welcome to the Wrong Planet community, Xinae.

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