I don't think I can take it anymore...

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I don't understand anyone. I go to college and I think I have friends but they all seem to be getting closer to each other when I'm not getting closer to any of them, but the problem is that I just don't know how to get close to others. Every one else seems to instinctively know how to react to social situations and I'm left completely left in the dark feeling like an idiot. We seemed close but after a brief winter break I feel like everyone ignores me and I don't know how to connect with them again. I can't stand it. I just can't. I've never felt more lonely in my life...

Yes, that's been a mystery to me as well. Where are these people getting the cues? I can't tell if they're just exchanging niceties or are actually making a genuine attempt to connect with me. Who knows, maybe I've probably missed out on a lot of great friendships because of an inability to know the difference. It's great that you're making friends though.

Welcome to the Wrong Planet neighborhood, Dave.

Welcome to WP.

Watching typically neuros grouping and making pair bonds can be pretty rough. I have found that what pair bonding I have done in the world and through the years has been pretty rough, too. I wish you the best, though. You always have WP.

Merle

Hi, for what it is worth my friend you are not alone. Okay, so we get to spend our entrire lives trying to figure where we've gone wrong. Don't bother, there is nothing wrong with you - or them, we are just different is all.
As for friends well I'm over 50 now and I can tell you that the friends you make will be friends for life. Don't waste your time on shallow minded people, there are many who look deeper and have much more patience than their peers, they will find you.
Be proud of who you are.
Tom

Dunno about wisdom, more like experience really.
Last week I put up a page on Facebook explaining about my aspergers and what it means to me. I did it because like you, I have the same problems of being misunderstood and I thought this might help. Well, mixed results. I overheard a couple of people the other day as they passed me, they were whispering that they knew my sons were 'ret*d' but didn't realise I was too. Only one thing to do with people like that, forget 'em!
I got a bunch of very positive and supportive comments from most who read the page.
There are always people who will look beyond the strange and see the real you inside.

http://www.facebook.com/groups.php?ref= ... 9681432621 if you want to go read it.

Be proud of who you are.

Tom