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I, and most of the people in my life, have always know that I operate in an unusual manner. It's just that no one knew what to call it. I've been tested for ADD and clinical Depression (negative on both). For the past few years I assumed that my quirks could be explained the fact that I live with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

I had certainly heard of Asperger's (rather difficult not to in the last few years) but knew very little about it. Then one evening I happpened to watch an interview with Daniel Tammet. At the time I was merely intrigued by his story (I have always enjoyed reading about psychology) so I borrowed his book Born On A Blue Day from the library. I read the book in a day and the entire time it was if light bulb after light bulb were going off- I identified with so much of what he said. Then I found the book Asperger's From The Inside Out by Michael Carley. Reading that book, again, set off more and more flashes of recognition. The more I learn about Asperger's, the more I feel I have found answers nad explanations that have alluded me much of my life
I am currently self-diagnosed and have been struggling with whether or not to go for a diagnosis. On the one had I function fine- I live on my own and am fortunate to have a job I am comfortable in and where my differences are not so noticable (I'm a dog and cat groomer). On the other hand I don't feel comfortable talking to my family about this without some sort of outside confirmation. Additionally I will be moving to another country in a few months to begin a relationship and feel it would be unfair to leave this person in the dark.

Thanks for reading. I hope this wasn't too disjointed.

You're leaving the country to begin a relationship?! Please tell me you've met this person. Please tell me this person has met your family. Please tell me you've googled this person and you know the culture and what will happen to you. Please. I'm scared for you.

Hi LosFrida welcome and know while a lot of change can be exciting not easy for any aspie, discovering aspergers even so late in life for me has helped my relationship if not saved it, and I feel the best approach is to be honest, be self.. never easy.. this article may help a little:
Unconventional relationships never easy - mix in some asd traits, expect the unexpected -
http://asplanet.info/index.php?option=c ... Itemid=146

Welcome to WP! Good luck.

Pleased to meet you, LosFrida. Welcome to Wrong Planet.

Hi LosFrida - welcome to WP!

To WrongPlanet!! !

Thank you all for the warm welcome.

Lelia, I appreciate your concern. Yes I have met this person, though having her meet my family has not been feasible yet. I know the culture quite well (moving from Canada to the US ). I am trying to cover as many bases before leaving so there are minimal surprises/ hassles. I apologize for scaring you

asplanet, thanks for the link to the great article.

Oh, well, Canada to US, okay. That's not like my cousin going to Egypt and coming back in a few years with a beautiful daughter and a lot of horrific stories.

Oh my goodness. Sorry to hear about your cousin.

Another Canuck! Fabulous. I'm sorry you haven't found the support you want and need. Good luck on your journey

Oh, and about telling your family about your AS. My experience and from what I've read on a number of forums is that family doesn't want to hear it. You might want to tell the family once and give a few copies of Born on a Blue Day, and then let it go.