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hi, i'm new, my little girl hasnt been diagonsed officially yet. but her consultant and speech therapits think she may have aspergers. she is 2 and a half and quite bright. she can name 24 dogs, and 24 cats in 2 seperate books just looking at photographs. she knows over 20 nursery rhymes from beginning to end, lots of colours and shapes including hexegon, oval, diamond etc.
im having lots of difficulty with her at the moment, she wont tollerate anyone else only me. she even tells her dad to leave her, go away. she screams at everyone if they come in the door, especially if they approach her. she doesnt like touch from anyone only me.
she hates the hoover, loud noises, and cant stand the wind blowing on her face, or bright sunlight.
she has a balance problem, im not sure if the two things are connected! she is a very picky eater and is on drink suppliments to help her weight gain. she only weight 22lb.
i love her to bits but its really hard work, she's been under the child development centre since she was 6 months because she didnt reach her milestones, sitting, crawling, rolling over, walking etc.
she has a left side weakness that was identified very early on, again, i dont know if this is common with aspergers!
the one thing that is concerning me is her speech. she had excellent speech, being able to relay sentence after sentence. she often repeated me, and used the same language in the correct places. just recently her speech is becoming to be unclear, not pronounced as clearly as before, im having to listen again and again to figure out what she is saying.

Kids always prefer mom, and I really believe that part of it is about that deep, loud voice, along with macho behaviors that men are never asked to think about or modify. Come to think of it, a lot of men are still annoying to me, even though I can tolerate it and not say anything. It could be that your kid is a little more sensitive than most to facial expressions, pitch, volume and maybe other habits that I can't guess. I wouldn't force it. I would look for things to make it easier, or wait until she can speak for herself. Try little things and see what works better. Can you cuddle on the couch, all three of you, and read a book? I'm making it up because I don't know what to ask.

Touch is an issue a lot of people talk about around here. Some say that a light touch is painful, while a firm touch is good. Stick around and I'm sure someone will expand on that.

What do the grandmothers say about you and the Dad when you were babies? What do they say about your siblings or others in the extended family? Did they think your kid had a problem? Those milestones might be perfectly normal in your families.

I'm wondering about the apparent regression in speech. Can you connect it to any kind of stress? Does she have a new teacher who is asking for too much, or some new situation? Is the speech better or worse when you're in a rush vs casual, family time?

My daughter, NT, had awful articulation, but that was because her teeth were bad. She had braces at an early age. She could tell a whole story by acting it out, so it was clear that she knew words and what she was thinking, but not a single word was intelligible. (I was walking down the stairs and I tripped on a toy and I fell and bumped my head and it hurt...)

I just thought I'd share a current thread:
"Questions on ABA" http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt94082.html

And while I'm at it, here's a good link for stuff to think about.
Michelle Dawson, "No Autistics Allowed," Explorations in discrimination against autistics. http://www.sentex.net/~nexus23/naa_02.html

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iv'e tried group hugs, she just gets more stressed, pushes people away from me, screaming at her brother or dad. we cant even cuddle if she sees us, she pushes dad away,
its like she owns me, and doesnt want to share, or doesnt know how. she doesnt think her brother needs any love or time. she isnt a spitefull child, she will talk, and pass things to her brother on request. quite often she switches off, often talking to herself in a quiet voice, like she's explaining to herself what she is doing. sometimes it's like she just looks through me, and doesnt hear me.
she is 2 years and 7 months now, but she wont share with her peers, she collects everything and carries it away, or slides things across a table away from other children.
she hates to be touched by her class mates, or staff. i cant leave her at pre-school because she wont let anyone do anything for her. (luckily i work there).
she will talk to older children in the family when they visit, but wont be touched, picked up, hugged, or hold hands. she often says the same things like, can we go on the back garden, or trampoline and cries till they do. she asks for them to constantly make sand castles, then she just brakes them up instantly. she is always pouring the sand on the floor and standing on it if she has shoes on.
its always the same, she's got a house with a kitchen but seldom uses it, only to open and shut the door, locking people in or out. (she opens gates and closes them, and doors in the house) she has to shut everything behind her, she wont move until she has closed it.
she still cant work ride on toys, or a cosy coupe, the only thing she uses is a rocking horse.
her peers fly round on bikes, scooters, trikes etc, she just goes on the slide or in the tunnel, laying in it rocking from side to side.
she wont hold hands to do ring games, or sit in a group at story time, she stands away, and watches. i feel so sorry for her, she seems to be missing out, but there is no way she will join in, she totally refuses.
she wouldnt go out today, it was windy on the garden, she cried, saying its windy, stop it.
she paddied at me cos i couldnt make the wind stop, she didn't understand i couldnt make it go away, and she wanted to go outside.
i'm not sure what the problem is with her, i know i luv her to bits, but really need to know how to get some help.