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hi there. I'm just introducing myself.

I'm also having some problems that I would like some help with, if anyone wants to be so kind.


ps. I'm bad with forums, and sometimes i don't make myself clear the first time.

Hi! Welcome to WrongPlanet.

You have to describe your problems for us to be able to help you with them, I'm afraid.

yes, good point.

well, I really need some relationship advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years, but it seems the closer we get the more we fight. It's all over humor. If there's one thing I do really bad at, that's it, and scarcasm. He can sit there and joke around with me, but most of the time I'll think he's being serious, even in retrospect, its blatantly obvious he's not. So then I get really defensive over whatever he said and he get into a huge fight over it. Or, on the flip-side, I;ll try to joke with him but he always thinks I'm being serious because I don;t really ever change the tone of my voice. So, I suppose what I'm looking for is a way to avoid this.

Also, he constantly thinks I'm ungrateful for all the things he does for me (he really has gone thought a freakish amount of trouble to be with me) and will think that I don't love him, cause i don't say it often, or really even act like it. But i think I act like it. It's obvious to me. So any advice on that would be amazing.

Some background: we really do love each other very much and even after all this we still want to be together. We're sort of engaged. Kind of. Oh, and he was diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder. And he's something of a nihilist. But besides all that, he's a really great person, to me anyway. We've never had any other problems other than those. Otherwise we're perfectly matched.

We keep trying to fix these things, but they end up happening at a rate of maybe twice a week.

Maybe the next time you feel yourself getting defensive because of something he's said, stop and ask him "Wait, was that a joke?" before you give an angry response?

If you're worried you don't tell him you love him enough, you could just, you know, tell him you love him. You're in control of your communication. If it freaks you out to say it, write him little notes or send him emails or text messages.

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Greetings, and welcome to the Wrong Planet, roboxdino.

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Hi. I had to learn to not even try to tell jokes. It just annoys people.