male/female: what about the "other" box?

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The problem with "other" is it doesn't tell us which pronouns to use. The only times I ever look at someone's gender are those rare times when I need to know if they are a he/his/him or a she/her. Other doesn't help with that.

At the same time, I get the desire for an "other" option, and get that this would for some people better reflect how they see themselves.

http://www.worldwidewords.org/qa/qa-the2.htm

not absolutely certain, but i believe that in Cantonese, there are no gender-specific pronouns.

i personally don't mind either one--him/her, etc.

I'm quite familiar with singular they and use it myself. It doesn't apply here. Singular they has historically been used only for a non-specified individual (anyone, someone, no one). (Yeah, that article lists "everyone" but that's actually using it as a plural pronoun. "We" could also be used after everyone: If everyone wants to go, we will.)

Using singular they for specific person is a new non-standard usage. And likely to be quite disjunctive to a lot of readers. Before the internet, there was rarely a situation where you'd be referring to a specific known person without knowing their gender, so there's no standard way to deal with that.