Question a Mod's decisions, here.....

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I have a suggestion, in case it could be something to consider. I think it would be beneficial if there was at least, one Moderator, well-versed in the recognition of covert intimidation/bullying. If there was someone of whom a target could trust to help them, or, at the very least, believe them, in such situations. I, recently, managed to navigate my way through such a situation, here, myself. Actually, it was my second experience with covert intimidation, here. Some people are skilled at behaving in such a way, as part of their MO, to avoid being found out, or, prevent the target from being believed, if a target were to report their actions. I have learned from past experience, that, if a target points something out that appears to be of little to no concern to the naked eye (so to speak), the target (and, sometimes, the targets friends/associates) will, inevitably, be punished by said bullies, (or, possibly the people in authority), while the bullying person will, in most instances, get away with their behavior. I could elaborate, further if need be, but, perhaps, there is no need for that. Thankfully, I haven't seen hide nor hair of the members, in approx 8 days. Perhaps, they have been gone for longer, as I had taken a break for 6 days, prior to returning from a reprieve I had from here. If there is in fact, a moderator/moderators with the ability to recognize covert actions, I would appreciate knowing who they are, in case I run into a similar situation, again, in the future.

I'm pretty certain an attempt to circumvent moderation penalties is also against the rules in general.
The only way it gets picked up and dealt with is when the mods are totally impartial and set aside the culprit's alignment to them. Until recently this wasn't happening.

What you're referring to is gaslighting behaviour. Gaslighting is being dealt with more vigilantly I've noticed, and good for the mods. There's also the flip-side, where people come in with alternate accounts, pretend to be "triggered" by the most trivial of posts in order to criminalise users, opinions, and interests groups someone doesn't like as well as shut down conversations in threads because they are not going the way a user would like them to be going.

Without naming names there is a user who is/was (or at least considers) themselves to be an abuse victim and they keep coming here with alt accounts, preying on "stupid Aspie men" comments and at first the posts go undetected, then ignored, then defended, then questioned, then moderated, then banned. In that order. You'd think people would learn the first time. But no. I mean, all you have to do is go through a user's post history and the signs are all there. None of the introduction, questioning Aspieness posts or threads. No getting to know anyone. No personal info sharing. Just straight into the political, negative topics, targetting specific posts from the get go. But no, no one picks up on it.

All the same it relates back to your comments about intelligent and covert methods of bullying that either go undetected or circumvent moderation protocol.

Anyone care to explain how my post was any kind of attack or other than topical?

I think this site would benefit from greater transparency in regards to the moderation process. For example, being more clear about what kind of warnings/bans you can get and how many warnings it takes to get a ban, etc.

^ take care of yourself, lady

If it was not removed for its content, then would someone please restore it. OP keeps calling people names for ignoring his absurd hypothetical, and his posts remain.

It has started to annoy me. Too late for restoration to matter. Removing a post which doesn't violate TOS in order to stop someone from replying in a way that does violate them only emboldens people to abuse the system.