Please help me make sense of this African woman contacting m

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First I was sent this message

"Hello dear,
My name is Fify, single searching for true love relationship as i saw your profile here (www.wrongplanet.net) and i became interested in you and i will like to know more about you and if you don't mind to mail me back here then i will reply you with my pictures and tell you more about myself.
I hope we can move from here. waiting for your mail.
With best regards
Fify."

Then I emailed some info about myself and was sent this with 2 pictures of her

"My dear,
Thanks for your reply to my mail,
How is your day my dear, I guess nice. Mine is a little bit hot over here in Dakar Senegal.
My name is Fify Osah I'm 23 years, from Ivory Coast in West Africa. I am 5' 7" tall, Fair in complexion,
Single (never married before) I am presently residing in the refugee camp here in Dakar Senegal as a
result of the civil war that was fought in my country. My late father Dr.Donald Osah was the managing
director of Osah ventures (Ltd) and he was the personal adviser to the former head of state
before the rebels attacked our house one early morning and killed my mother and my father in cold blood.
It was only me that is alive now and I managed to make my way to a nearby country Senegal where i am living
now in a refugee camp,and this computer belongs to a Reverend that has a church here in the camp.
My hobbies are reading, cooking, cinema, movies, dancing and fond of little kids.
I would like to know more about you.your likes and dislikes, hobbies and what you are doing presently.
I will tell you more about myself in my next mail. Attached here is my photo, hope you will like it.
Hoping to hear from you soonest.
Yours Fify."

Now I really don't know what to think at all, I live in the UK with my parents, I'm unemployed, I tried to tell her about my aspergery traits, I don't see how she wants a relationship with me? Someone tell me what to think about this because I really don't know

I got the same message, I responded accusing of spam.

This is a common spam message. Report it here:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt142813.html

This is a type of letter known as a "419", commonly used for defrauding people and coming from the W African community. It's called a 419 because it's covered by paragraph 419 of the Nigerian criminal code.

You're safe to ignore it and anything similar that arrives.

For a little amusement, you might want to look at www.419eater.com.

Could you tell me her username? (If you received those messages here and not on your mail)

Last edited by Sallamandrina on 11 Mar 2011, 9:51 am, edited 1 time in total.

Ok thanks everyone.

fify05

Thank you, they won't bother you again

I feel a bit stupid but I don't want to prejudge all africans as scammers and it threw me off that they would target a penniless aspie lol

Compared to their lifestyle, you're very rich.

4-1-9. All there is to it.

I also received an e-mail from her, you would think that they would send a more attractive picture. . . I have many e-mail accounts and receive maybe 100 spam letters like that a day. Sometimes it aggravates me and I respond with very aggressive words. Mostly just delete them, I have met a person who does this in real life and he was Canadian operating of of Africa, he makes millions a year taking money from the unassuming or elderly population. This guy gets everything he wants, I have reported him and nothing happened.

One thing to do is check the person's post count. If they were really interested in a relationship, they would build a rapport in public on the boards. The pm's are ALWAYS scams. Even I get them. From young women. Right.

Funny how scammers don't even bother to send me a PM anymore.
I wonder what stopped them from PM'ing me?

You have an enemy? Know their email address. Ask them to get in contact with you at that email address. They become another person's problem.
That is what I do.

I got one of those PMs from fify05 earlier this week. I too noticed the post count was zero AFTER having the crap shocked out of me. I just joined here and getting a "relationship" message of intent kicked my defenses into overdrive.

I received such message on aspieaffection. She wrote something like this"I liked your profile........". And I wondered how can she do so when I did not even fill much in there. The point is that whenever NTs get some information, visual or auditory, they intuitively think that there may be some alternate objective to it. The more unbelievable the information is the more likely it is to be having another meaning. This is why they can catch pretense or lies. After years of retrospection I have figured out Theory of Mind, social awareness (I will post a thread on it later) and what I call local language skills.
So whenever you get any information see if it sounds or seem unnatural or unbelievable or rare. For e.g. in my case the "girl" was saying that she like my profile and was smitten by me. I never had got such message in my life. So this was a rare experience for me.
In case of OP the case is almost the same. I don't know if any one sent him such a "love-filled" e-mail in his life without knowing him. This is highly unnatural and rare. And the story was too too unbelievable that her father was a doctor and that she was writing a mail from church. Why would someone use a church's comp for such purpose?
She is giving this "explanation" to tell you that she is not rich that she is using a computer. Usually people give so many explanations to prevent any further queries, it is an indication that they are lying as they expected people to pick out the loop holes in the story.
Now you see how difficult it is for us to understand it and how easy it is once we know that what people say and do might be having an alternate objective which is pretense. It forms one of the rules in my ToM rules, which I will post later this year.