do you get invited to parties, do you party?

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Same here.

I never get invited into parties at HS or college.

That's the mentality of frat booze parties.

I hardly ever get invited to parties. In fact I recall one after our successful concert and they were having an after party. I had to ask where everyone was going, one person told me they were going to a sushi steakhouse. I asked why no one had told me and all I got was...well I don't know....

When it does come to parties, I have trouble cliquing in.

Never cared much for parties, but have occasionally been invited. I pretty much didn't care for them for the reasons mentioned here, people drinking too much and acting foolish.

I did get forced to go to a few parties when I lived with my parents, since they seemed to think some of my problems could be solved through forced conformity and forced socialization. Sometimes my sister would get invited to parties and for some reason, our parents would force me to tag along with her, even if I wasn't invited. Times I was invited, my sister would accept for me and of course, our parents would take her side. They even made excuses about how it would upset my sister if I didn't go with her. I would go, sit like a bump on a log, then go home when my sister was ready to leave.

When I was around 12, my mother asked me if I wanted to have a pool party and I said no, so she went behind my back and invited the whole class to our home for an end of year party. Since I had no interest in swimming, it really bugged me they did this in addition the fact my feelings were totally disregarded. I didn't participate, just hung out in my room, with a few other people, which of course upset my parents after the whole thing was over.

As for dance clubs, never been to one.

I actually really like to drink and dance at parties/bars... but that's also an issue. There has to be some sort of desensitizing substance there or I'm a complete social failure. I think some people find me odd just because I can be completely muted during a sober social activity... and then the next night I'm 'loud' and talkative... and fun? haha.

I get invited to them, but I always prefer not to go.

The last one I went to, I was psyched because they had some video games. I played Gamecube with some guys instead of drinking games and I loved it. At most parties, I play video games (typically the host has some kind of console). LAN parties are good, too. When I party hard, I pwn hard.

Ya i get invited and used to go to a bunch of parties in college but i always hated them. Now i rarely go because I alcholism runs in my family and everytime i get drunk i am reminded of how terrible alcohol made my life, and now that my mom quit I decided I would be the one to break the chain and never have to put my kids through the same thing, thats if i do ever have kids.

I'm NT and have been to two parties that were larger than about six close friends and family members. The first one was excruciating because there were only two people I knew apart from my brother and everyone was hammered after the first five minutes. The second was a bit better because it was much smaller and I at least recognized most of the people there. Plus, there was a lot less alcohol involved.

I've been invited to several more since and have refused every invitation, usually by pretending to have some

I'm an aspie, and I have occasionally been invited to parties where I'll know nearly everybody. Even with that, though, I find parties hard to take. I sit quiet in a corner for a while, make small talk briefly, sip some wine, stop sipping, slip out for five minutes to depressurise, come back, slip out again twenty minutes later and so on.

I have been invited by some NT guys several times. I guess they only wanted to invite me to "check me out". But I don't like partying since usually a lot of alcohol is involved and drunk people can be real as*holes.

I haven't been invited to those big college parties where students play extremely loud music and get high and severely intoxicated. I have no intention of going to such parties because it would be impossible for me to meet and converse with those silly students there due to their drunkeness and eardrum-rupturing loud music. However, I always go to family parties which are usually safer than the on-campus parties are.

I don't get invited, and I wouldn't go if I was because I don't like crowds or loud noises.

Often get invited repeatedly by 3 of my friends. Rarely go.

If I know 2 people well for every person I don't know well, then I can enjoy something like this. Otherwise, depends on the strangers. Since almost everyone in my country is a 'home dawg' or a redneck, its rare for me to find a crowd I can associate with.

LAN parties are a slightly different matter, the people there are gamers/nerds and I get along with them just fine. But haven't been to one of these in years (LAN peaked at Halo 2, and has gone downhill ever since... plus I've just sorta outgrown such things)

If I got invited to any sort of party...[/i]LAN or otherwise[/i]..I'd probably go. And if there was alcohol, I'd likely drink it. Kind of a depressing way to think of life, as an infinite sequence of party after party after party. But this is the end of the teen years, and be you smart or dumb, you've got to have social fun some way or another.

I don't know if I personally agree with that. You can have fun in a more microscopic situation - you and one or two others, perhaps playing a game of Scrabble or the like - without having to be surrounded by a thousand other socially-adept neurotypical-types. Unfortunately, out in the unforgiving real world, we are trained to hate the notion of a "microscopic" friendship, involving a lot of one-on-one interaction, and go for the idea of (as someone on the floor below me once said) "meeting as many people as possible". I think, in the end, you lose a lot of potential friendships for not following that model.

I've been invited to a few, Im not really that into it. It mostly involves drinking, socializing and if theres a dance, dancing. Drinking makes me mostly dizzy and tired, it dosent really break down the social anxiety like I'd hope it would. But it does help, the things going on around me dont bother me as much as they normally would. I like to dance, its just that promencuity with dances annoy me.

I used to live in a kind of party house with a good, very social friend and his roommate, and it was great fun. I wouldn't acknowledge anybody else most of the time though, so it was moreso like "hangout with a good friend and drink with a bunch of people around" to me. Parties every day got old quick, but it was fun.

I have gone to a couple to a couple of extremely crowded keggers, too. After a point of crowding, my social anxiety disappears, and the alcohol loosens me up enough to be able to find somebody to chat about movies/games with. Again, fun times.