Skipping Prom

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I had 2 chances to go to the prom, and I didn't go. I'm relieved I didn't. It woould have been awkward. I didn't know most of these people, and sometimes was even picked on.

This has been discussed before, and I'll throw in my 2 cents.

I didn't go to my prom or any school dances at all. I didn't have the desire to, and that was that.

The way I looked at it was I already had to spend 5 days a week amongst people who had nothing but hatred and contempt for me, why should I pay to spend and evening amongst them? I actually got tormented for not going to school dances, I never understood why. If they hate me so much during school, why would they want to see me out of school? Then I figured it out, so they would have other opportunities to make me miserable in addition to at school.

And besides, unless I could have found someone from outside the school to go with me, I wouldn't have had a chance at a getting a date for the prom anyway. Combining all of this, why should I have gone?

That was 24 years ago and I have absolutely no regrets.

At the end of school, there is something called a "debs", similar to a prom. I seem to be the only one in my school 100% sure that I'm not going. Nobody knows that at this time (except for here now).

I don't think I'm going to my prom due to money matters. Besides, I really don't think it will be all that worth the hundreds of dollars I'd probably spend. I'm most likely going to skip prom.

Never went, and very proud that I didn't waste all that money on some stupid gown I'd wear only for that occasion.

Never went to a prom. I still have a few raw scars from the one dance event I attended in high school. I knew prom would have been as bad or worse. Better to avoid that kind of pain.

I had a prom date but he wasnt someone I was particulary interested in attending the prom with. (I would find out later that he was romantically interested in me and the entire time I have been stupidly oblivious to it.)

I spent much of that prom hanging out with my gfs who went without dates, especially during the slow dances. Made we wish I had gone with them solo.

Yeah I was a total b*tch to my date. Can ya tell?

I didn't go to either my junior prom or my senior ball ...I just couldn't ask anyone and I knew I would of gotten rejected...I tried not to make a big deal about it but my mom, dad, and sister joked that day...also when I saw the limo at a girl's house about 4 houses down, I just stared at the window and began to tear up...it was probably my most miserable day...I really don't even want to think about it anymore...I remember my one teacher, who I've had for 2 straight years, she got to know me as well as the other 6 kids that were in both years classes and she felt bad that I wasn't going and every1 else was. I feel like I've missed a huge event, and that feeling seems to keep coming up, getting sick of it.

I went to both my Year 12 and Year 13 proms (equivalent of junior and senior proms). Didn't have a date for either but then neither did most of the people in my year (school came down pretty heavily on showing affection in-school, which tended to reduce the number of "official" couples). There was definite pressure to attend at least one prom but nobody was expected to attend both and several people skipped the Year 13 prom with absolutely no social consequences.

Didn't see any point in getting myself a prom outfit on either occasion; some formal clothes that were slightly fancy but also perfectly suitable for university interviews, open days and other formal events proved a good investment, serving for both proms (with slightly different accessories) and about two years of other activities.

Food was served before the music was turned on in both cases and I think that helped a lot. It's difficult to properly enjoy a three-course meal if you have Britney Spears blaring at 120dB in your eardrum (and yes, I have been to places where that unfortunate mistake was made).

There was loud music but only at one end of the places where the proms were held. So there was a "loud music" dancefloor, a "quiet music" dancefloor and an "escape zone". This meant I had somewhere to go when I felt like dancing (the "quiet music" floor - even with earplugs the "loud music" dancefloor was impossible). The Year 13 prom music was provided by a brass band rather than the usual disco studio set-up, so it was fun to listen to it even when I couldn't tell what pop song they were covering.

In Year 12, the "escape zone" included an event photographer (I've still got the photo of me with my two best friends from school on my bedroom wall) and a piano. A whole bunch of us spent part of the evening entertaining each other with various songs. In Year 13, there was a huge garden which everyone explored at some point. The fact that my friends and I explored it for about a third of the time we were there was considered absolutely fine, except for the one that got too drunk and ended up falling asleep in a plant pot (luckily I'd left by the time that happened).

In short, the proms were great but that was because they'd been adapted to appeal to more than just the people who wanted to dance the night away. I get the impression that a lot of proms are not.

However, I will say that I skipped the university prom on the grounds of value for money. I didn't see the point of spending £40 on a night out that, due to transport issues, would have lasted the grand total of 2 hours...

My school's having a boat party for the year 11's at the end of the year. I'm obviously not going, which has caused confusion from people who I've told that too. They can't seem to comprehend I just don't like parties. Even a friend of mine I've known since primary school, who knows I have Asperger's and knows I don't like social occasions, was trying to convince me to "come anyway".

That said, I seem to go to a school where everyone goes to parties and raves all the time, I always hear them talking about crap like that. I don't see the attraction in it at all, it seems they go to a building where they play loud music so they can talk to their friends and dance, then take photos which they'll then upload to Facebook, then just repeat the process over and over. WHY?!

Though I did chuckle when I looked at the song playlist for the boat party, which was all chosen by students, and saw it included I'm On A Boat by Lonely Island

My best friend skipped it, I didn't although it wasn't anything I enjoyed much.

I never went to prom because it never interested me. An NT might be interested in a prom in the same way I would be interested in a lecture on, say, Vanishing Biodiversity in Madagascar. It may sound barbaric, but I am more interested in information than people. Information doesn't get mad at you when you make a mistake according to arbitrary social rules.

My school didn't have a prom, it was a very tiny school. I never really thought of going to prom until I didn't have the opportunity to go, lol. I might have gone if I had a date or a bunch of friends going at another school, but I didn't. I don't think I knew anyone who went, actually.

I'm not going to the prom at my school. The people I know are going aren't the kind of people I want to spend time with.