my dad sez i can,t do anything until my grades improve

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OH.......MY.......GOD!
i am about to........can't say
i told my dad about 1,000 times i can't do it. im' just too stupid
i just want to be left alone by my dad

What I had to do was tell my dad that
if I don't understand it, I can't do it.

I said if you are all hellfired about me
making a better grade, make it so that
I AM able to do it.

If I don't have the means, then it
is Not Possible.

I hope your dad is logical enough to
understand that.

I think I'm a little cranky today? so maybe you shouldn't listen to me? But if I had my life to live over again, and if I ran into a situation like yours, I would become the worst problem kid that a dad ever had to deal with, so he'd wish for the good old days when the only problem was grades.

For that matter, tell your dad that this 59yo woman says she got straight A's in school and thinks it was a total waste of life. Ask Dad exactly what use are good grades?

What does your dad want you to be, that you need good grades for it?

One of my greatest regret in life is that I never smacked a teacher.

Well, that being said, and thank you for letting me blow off steam, would you like me to help you with your studies? I probably can and will if you like. I'm usually much more pleasant than this.

Let's scare Dad *and* improve your grades. No, really, I'm quite sane.

I wouldn't recommend actually doing this! This kind of thing is hard to come down from. It's kind of like war, what is your exit strategy?

Instead, just tell your Dad you need a tutor.


(And you know, I don't know if long distance would work out and all, but Claradoon sounds like she'd actually be a pretty good tutor, with a sense of humor!)

I would also recommend just getting a tutor. Once you figure out how you learn, stuff comes easier for you. I have figured out that I don't learn by listening to a teacher lecture, I learn visually. I found a site where tutors advertise their services http://www.care.com/. I know some people think grades only matter if you want to go to college, but you may want to do that someday. I used to never think about it and not worry about grades, but now I'm SO excited about colleges. I would say you and your dad work on getting a tutor, work on understanding your schoolwork, and it will open opportunities for your future and improve your relationship with your dad.

I would also agree that you need either a tutor or some form of outside of school help. I would first try asking your teachers for help after school, and if that doesn't work out ask your dad about a tutor.

I know my stuff
its just turning work in

Mine used to love to do that to me too when I was a kid. I would be forbidden to do any of the things that kept me sane, like listening to my music, watching TV, listening to the radio, etc. They did it to me for a whole summer break one year, and it really hurt. It was so ridiculous and all it did was make me angrier at everyone and everything.

I just hated school so much that sometimes, I just didn't care how I did. All the constant harassment I dealt with made it so bad that I just couldn't cope. Not sure what advice I'd give you, but I think some of the other members of the forum have given some good suggestions.

Good luck,

Is it possible that your dad also sees that you know your stuff and aren't too stupid?

Is this about poor grades or an expectation on the part of your dad that you get perfect grades?

If you are getting poor grades, then I can tell you that I never hear another adult who got poor grades tell me that he/she wishes they spent less time studying school. I regularly hear adults say that they wish they put more effort into school when they were younger. They usually blame their parents for not expecting more from them.

theres no way to convince him because in just an idiot who can't prove nothing
my dad sez he wishes i could just pass the frickin' class.