How do bf/gf relationships begin in college nowadays?

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I am currently a freshmen in college with a mild case of aspergers, and I was curious as to how most of these relationships happen so fast. Most people with aspergers talk about "hooking up with girls at a party or what not, and I wasn't sure if this is where it began. Obviously talking to the girl is the initial thing you want to do, but nowadays, would it be odd to ask a girl to eat lunch with you that you know fairly well, or do most relationships become official when they start hooking-up everynight and then decide to go out?

That sounds similar to what I'm currently experiencing.

I'm a freshman in college. I met this one guy in one of the campus organizations. He asked me for my phone number (that gave me the hint that he may be interested in me), and we texted each other back and forth. He asked me twice if I was single, and that really made me suspect that he was interested in me.

We keep telling each other that we should "hang out" ( ) some time. I suggested that we have coffee.

If you already know her very well, maybe you should just ask her to hang out with you. Take subtle steps.

Well, if you want a relationship based on sex, then hook up with a girl at a frat party. That way, she can say that she was drunk and it didn't count, and so it's an excuse to see you again under the premise of "Let's hang out now that we got started on the wrong foot" instead of the more realistic "If you want to have sex with me on a regular basis, then you are going to have to earn it buddy" so it all really depends on what it is you are looking for. If you want a relationship, then start with drinking coffee instead of beer.

As I understand it, sometimes people at college interact with each other rather than hanging out in the library with headphones on and their head buried in a book. This somehow leads to relationships.
Since I spend my time in the library with headphones on and my head buried in a book, I'm afraid I can provide no further help.

Hmm...? Frankly, I wonder if Im unattractive to guys in my school. That seems to be the case, Im fairly attractive to guys online but things are way different...shrugs.

Heres a few examples of college relationships starting

1) Few instances where people are really good friends with the person where they hang out all the time. Then at some point, they decide to get into a relationship.
2) My friend met her husband at some event, they were of the same religion so they decided to start emailing each other. And then the emails grew to be very long and lengthy and very frequent. They started dating at some point.
3) My friend hooked up with this guy once while drunk. Afterwards, he had a huge crush on him. So he started asking him to eat meals a lot. From there, they eventually went on some dates and were together. However the relationship wasnt too serious and didnt last long.
4) Then my friend last year, had this guy trying to court her and she simply responded in getting to know him and going on dates and stuff, they got into a relationship.

But the question on how to go about doing this is a billion times more complicated. For me its complicated and hard, like how making friends used to be. You saw everyone doing it around u, and u even saw how they do it, yet you cant seem to do it yourself. Theres a guy I currently like and I got no friggin idea how to get him interested in me. The only thing I can really do is get to know him better.