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10 Mar 2011, 12:58 am

I am a university student and I'm currently doing really well but my grades have fluctuated a LOT depending on whether what I was studying was related to my interest at the time. The last two years I have been doing well and getting good grade but when this happens I get really perfectionistic and at the first sign of things not going well in a course I get really anxious and drop said course. I'm curious whether others (and how many others) who are diagnosed with AS do this as well. I also have an anxiety disorder btw…………



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10 Mar 2011, 1:13 am

No, my major has no electives and since I chose it late if I wanted to graduate on time dropping isn't an option (and I don't really want to increase my loans even more because of dropping).

I do impulsively drop and add classes before they start though. I don't think I've ever kept the entire original schedule I start with when I register. Sometimes I regret it when it is a class that had a waiting list and I have no chance of getting back in when I decide I do want to take it afterall.



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10 Mar 2011, 11:38 am

I wouldn't call that impulsive...you're doing that for anxiety reasons, which is reasonable. I also have an anxiety disorder along with AS, and I often impulsively want to drop a course or start planning to do it...I sometimes even start thinking about dropping out of school and extremes like that, but I never do (drop out of school I mean, I have dropped a course if it was really bad).


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10 Mar 2011, 12:04 pm

astaut wrote:
I wouldn't call that impulsive...you're doing that for anxiety reasons, which is reasonable. I also have an anxiety disorder along with AS, and I often impulsively want to drop a course or start planning to do it...I sometimes even start thinking about dropping out of school and extremes like that, but I never do (drop out of school I mean, I have dropped a course if it was really bad).


it definitely IS because of anxiety...but the thing is I wish I could just think about dropping courses and then convince myself that I was being irrational and not do it like you described. I drop courses before the "drop date" so I don't lose the money (most of the time) but this year I have dropped courses that I needed to take to graduate on-time...either increasing my course load to a ridiculous degree for this summer or making it so that I will have to take another semester at least. I'm already way behind when I should have graduated btw.........



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10 Mar 2011, 12:07 pm

I have dropped out of school as well. I obviously subsequently returned..........



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10 Mar 2011, 12:09 pm

yes i do this, I had some stress last year and couldnt score as high as I wanted and so dropped 2 very expensive courses. Ive got to finish my msc this year as its the last year the course is running so I hope I dont screw it up again. I found these perfectionism books helpful

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Overcoming-Perf ... 862&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Present-Perfect ... =8-4-spell



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10 Mar 2011, 12:10 pm

daydreamer84 wrote:
I have dropped out of school as well. I obviously subsequently returned..........


me too. I am actually graduating soon with a good gpa, though I didn't drop out because of academics.



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10 Mar 2011, 7:07 pm

I've done this a few times. Sometimes in the past anxiety has caused me to do this. The work is never really overwhelming to me unless it involves group work. I have dropped classes before because they involved too much group work.. Or if people talk to me too much


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11 Mar 2011, 1:18 am

poppyfields wrote:
daydreamer84 wrote:
I have dropped out of school as well. I obviously subsequently returned..........


me too. I am actually graduating soon with a good gpa, though I didn't drop out because of academics.


I dropped out for non-academic reasons too....... reasons .......not really related to what I wrote about in this thread.....



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11 Mar 2011, 1:22 am

lotusblossom wrote:
yes i do this, I had some stress last year and couldnt score as high as I wanted and so dropped 2 very expensive courses. Ive got to finish my msc this year as its the last year the course is running so I hope I dont screw it up again. I found these perfectionism books helpful

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Overcoming-Perf ... 862&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Present-Perfect ... =8-4-spell


I think I really really need these! I am such a perfectionist...I was reading about OCPD and if it's possible to have a pervasive developmental disorder and a personality disorder then I think I have it! Unfortunately I don't have time to read anything because I have so much school work to do :lol: (a bit ironic).



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11 Mar 2011, 4:13 am

I've only dropped classes a couple of times. One class I dropped was because I was taking it with my friend who ended up dropping out of school in the middle of the term.
However, my grades do wildly fluctuate depending on my mood during that term, and whether or not I like the subject.



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12 Mar 2011, 12:10 am

I never dropped a course in college.
With all the money I paid into classes, seemed like a waste to drop a course so that maybe you can get a B instead of a C the next time.



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19 Mar 2011, 7:42 pm

Yes, which is why although I went to college at 16 I haven't even completed a 2-year degree and I'm 27 now. Sometimes I get overwhelmed before I register for the semester (so that's killed a bit of time), or sometimes I get frustrated with the class or my schedule, and instead of dropping one class, I panic and drop them all.

I'm trying very hard this time. I just had my first mathematics exam of the semester and my second computer science test. I received a B on these exams, and as every other grade I have received was an A, I had to fight my urge to drop again. I'm no longer confident that I know the material well enough for the finals which are both worth about a third of my grade. It's probably anxiety, but also perfectionism. I'm trying to tell myself that no grade is far worse than a B.



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20 Mar 2011, 1:20 am

chaotik_lord wrote:
Yes, which is why although I went to college at 16 I haven't even completed a 2-year degree and I'm 27 now. Sometimes I get overwhelmed before I register for the semester (so that's killed a bit of time), or sometimes I get frustrated with the class or my schedule, and instead of dropping one class, I panic and drop them all.

I'm trying very hard this time. I just had my first mathematics exam of the semester and my second computer science test. I received a B on these exams, and as every other grade I have received was an A, I had to fight my urge to drop again. I'm no longer confident that I know the material well enough for the finals which are both worth about a third of my grade. It's probably anxiety, but also perfectionism. I'm trying to tell myself that no grade is far worse than a B.


:lol: there are far worse grades.........resist the urge....don't drop the class!!