Advice for College Years

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Observation: From what I have heard, illegal consumption of alcohol is prevalent in college.

Suggestion: If forced to attend an event involving it, I will bring a water bottle and an empty glass bottle of the kind used to store the (almost literally) blighted beverage.

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If that's what you'd rather do. Are you uncomfortable telling people you don't/don't currently want to drink?

I am just trying to help those who might feel obligated to join in the hedonism because of, "friends." This thread was aimed at similar members who will be entering college (or already are) and need pre-thought solutions to problems. Being rational is easy when there is no burden of time, but the stress of having such an event may impair the ability to think of a solution.

[Not that I would ever choose to join or host a party of this level of immaturity.]

Got it. Sorry, I was confused.
Definitely a good option, in that case. Another is to bring your own drink they won't have there (usually an energy drink for me). As the night gets later people aren't looking at what you have in your hands, as long as you have something they usually won't drunkenly harass you to drink more.
In a bar, all you have to do is tell the bartender you're DD and you can usually get a free soda or something to carry around as well.

What is DD?

Designated Driver. It's the person a group assigns before they go out to stay sober and drive them all home at the end of the night.

I am starting to think creating an absolute rule that I am not invited to parties would be an easier option. I would not want any (illegally) inebriated people in a hypothetical vehicle I might own once I get around to getting a license.

Observation: Apparently, people like inviting romantic interests for mating activities into dormitories.

Solution: If the dormitory had no bed before I moved in, I will build a small hammock where there should be a large bed and place a desk and bookshelves near it such that it is almost cramped and make the room as un-romantic as possible.

I'm not sure where you live, and that's not an unwise stance to take. On the flip side, if you are sober and driving a bunch of drunk people home, many police officers will thank you and allow you to go about your business as long as your passengers aren't causing trouble.

Alternative solution: If there are already two beds, just make it clear that you won't be evacuating for that purpose, ever. I know it sounds harsh but if you say up front that you have no intention of being kicked out for other people's coitus they might go to the other person's room. Or you could just come in anyway and start critiquing, that'd be a quick way to get privacy.

Actually, I am not in college yet. I am just trying to think about some solutions to potential problems and issues because of the differences in ideology.

You'll probably want to choose a larger school, or wherever there is more to do in your off-time than just drinking.

There are generally groups of friends that don't drink (or too often) on campuses anyway. Try hanging out with these people more if you are still dispassionate about alcohol till then.

From personal experience, I find that alcohol and ganji are easy to come by, but it is easy to stay away from/ refuse them, too. I say no to alcohol and cigarettes all the time, and my friends (who I know to drink enormous volumes on occasion) don't care whether I do or not.

But besides the debauchery of it all... lets see...

Get the help you're due from disability services, they can make communication with professors much easier on making special arrangements. For example, I get extended time on tests, and, on one exceptional occasion, deadlines on papers.

Don't get behind on work. If you are on top of things throughout the semester, finals week will be easy to prepare for. I have been on both ends on that.

OK, so the best thing to do at the moment will be obtaining the 504 plan.

Hmmm, what else?

Observation: Even high-school adolescent parties get very noisy.

Solution: I will buy sound-dampening pads for the walls even if that makes the silence of the room unbearable for guests.

Observation: You assume a dorm room is a viable long term living arrangement.

Solution: Consider what (most of us) can't handle anyway, before attempting to solve problems related to said situation.

Anyone forcing you to use any kind of drug (including alcohol) to gain social acceptance is bad company. Avoid them, they most likely have other issues that make them hard to deal with.

A lot of schools have substance free living. This might be an option.

I LOL at the fact the legal drinking age is 21 where you live (at least I assume it is since you mentioned the illegal consumption of alcohol)

I don't know about other schools but where I went to college there were a bunch of parties. And their were certain undercover students that would take note if someone underage was drinking.

Don't know about other colleges but we filled out a roommate agreement. Even if you don't have to fill one out you can set a couple ground rules with each other. Such as if he wants a girl over you need advance notice so you can for sure have some place else to be, not staying up late, quite at certain times, etc.