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For us aspies in college it seems that parties are frequently a pain in our collective posterior ends. Some of us don't enjoy the loud music and dancing. Some of us don't want to drink. Some of us just wish we'd get invited. Some issues are covered better than others for aspies on advice on how to do things. Partying is seen by some as a deviant behavior by some so there is very little information out there for aspies who want advice about how to deal with parties if we want to go to them.

I'm all confused about party etiquette. Half of the guys on my floor are in the same frat, they always hold a party at the same time in the same house every week and they encourage me to go to their parties. I've noticed something recently that is bugging me. I seem to be the only one who goes to the parties alone without any friends. Even though it seems to me that everyone there is too drunk to notice. Does anybody know if it is considered weird to go to a party alone?

Most of the time I go to parties alone but I usually am acquainted with other people who are there. I don't usually go to parties held by people I don't know. It's just too uncomfortable. That probably doesn't help you much....

That's what I do too. I have acquaintance there but I've started to get this feeling that that's a "weird" thing to enter them alone. Any NTs in the house that can answer this?

Well if it makes you feel better, I've never even been to a party before and I'm a 5th year senior. I do not know anyone in RL who has gone to one either (excluding my parents, who went to some shortly after the end of the last Ice Age). The only things I know about parties are what people on the Internet tell me about them.

The entire concept sounds crazy to me though and somewhat dangerous.

I've been to a fair number of parties, and never enjoyed any of them. I don't even bother anymore. You're not missing out on much :l

I'm not NT, but I can tell you that no one will care if you come to a party alone. In fact, they'll probably prefer it to you bringing a bunch of your guy friends. It's the lamest thing ever, but out here, if whoever's throwing the party thinks that there's too many guys there, they'll stop letting groups of guys in. It does make it a little bit easier if you're with a friend because you can follow their lead, but that's really the only advantage.

Yo.

Gamester here.

probably can answer your question. since i'm closest to being NT, may as well be.

Yeah.

okay, so I go to a christian college, but on the weekends, a lot of the guys and girls I know go out to clubs and get drunk.

I've been invited, once or twice, but turned them down, because of the fact that I've been buzy.

however, these guys are a good (slightly on the wrong path in life with drinking and womanizing) bunch of guys who don't try and get in trouble, and for them going to a college party somewhere else at another college is what they do.

so in answer to whoever's question about is normal to go alone.........I'd say yes. because these guys go as a pack. and most groups do, to make sure each and all are okay.

I can ask my NT friend that parties a lot when he gets around to coming on aim. imo i think it's somewhat odd to go to a party by yourself, unless you're invited of course. then it's okay.

I've never been to an actual "college party" before, and I am in my second year. I don't drink anymore, so it doesn't really interest me anyways.

It is very weird to go to a party alone. In the future, bring a male friend, preferably two. This will help you enormously in your goal, which is to meet women. Though parties are disguised to recognize events (Halloween, last game of the season, Jack is going away), never forget that the masquerade is always secondary to your primary goal of meeting women. Now, there are several reasons to come with friends to a party.

1. Friends give you a reputation. The more friends you have, the less of a creepy wierdo you probably are.
2. Friends will let you approach women, who will most likely be in groups. Solo approaches are very difficult, and unless you are a really big deal, you will need to have your friends entertain/distract the other girls.
3. You will have way more fun drinking with friends! Also, safety may or may not be an issue.

I think that drinking games seem to make it easier for me to interact at a superficial level with peers, all you have to do is learn the rules and play the game...this usally prevents me from ending up sitting alone on a sofa at a party. I find that drinking culture is full of simple behaviors that are easy to observe and imitate, and if i'm feeling really detached saying "i'm just drunk" will instantly apease a NT

I usually go to parties alone, but i know everyone who's there so i guess it's not so odd, and other (NT) people do this often. I sometimes go with my friends who are also invited, but i never take a person who is like not a part of a group and i think it would be weird...

But sometimes there are 'open' parties when they just prefer you to bring anyone just to make more people come and then it gets like, most of people are uninvited and they don't even know who lives there. XD
I once got out from some boring party with a few friends cause we heard there's another party nearby... we went there even thought we weren't invited and we didn't knew ANYONE from this second party... they didn't notice. :D It was so weird...

Anyway, I don't like this home parties. I prefer clubbing somehow...