I wish I was homeschooled

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I feel I do not have the tolerance required for going to school anymore.

No, it's not waking up early to get to school, nor is it the homework and curriculum. It's the other kids. I am far from fitting in with others in terms of opinions and interests. I cannot cope with the many different types of kids in class. I cannot stand working with them. There have also been times that involved teasing. Whenever it got to me, I would always channel my anger negatively.

Ever since I started school, I have always had this problem. I thought homeschooling was a solution. However, I was always told I needed to learn to cope with it. I am really tired of hearing that, and I do not want to to learn to cope, nor do I have the will to control my anger.

I feel like a homeschooling environment is a better place for me to be. I feel nobody is aware of that. I don't want to spend the next semester I have left in school, or I may end up where I do not want to end up.

Does anybody feel the same way? Is homeschooling a solution?

I can tell you my fifth grader is hating school, and I think his reasons are similar to yours. His anger has been a major issue lately, so today we talked to him about home schooling.

Now he's mad that we would consider taking away his summer vacation and his one good friend.

Honestly, I see some good in home schooling, but I also understand why people will tell you that you eventually have to learn to deal with it. (I know that isn't what you wanted to hear.) However, I think there is a limit to how much "dealing" needs to be done. I've heard a few Aspies describe high school as "pure hell." Personally, I would pick home school over that any day of the week.

Do you think your family would consider a trial run? Some of the online schools allow a week or two free trial. Maybe you could try it over a school holiday and see how it goes?

I feel EXACTLY THE SAME WAY. I would seriously consider home school, but my parents would never let me, and I find taking online courses too distracting. I want to go to a good university, so I need the extra-curricular activities, too.
"Hell is other people" - Jean-Paul Sartre

I feel the same way. I can't seem to find my "niche" or social class in school, and it's encouraging me not to talk much to anyone. This advice might help you, since it's how I'm coping with the 12-dozen transitions I've just went through in the matter of 30 days:

School is extremely stressful. Homework, Notes, and upcoming tests are incredibly hard to do.. however, trying to fit in is never easy. It's somewhat impossible to get along with everyone in todays world, but sometimes you have to fit in to a certain extent just to survive the school day, right? Everyone has their ups and downs, and I recommend you talk to the people at your school about the issue; guidance is a necessity in dealing with these kinds of things, and I'm in the same boat as you. I talked to my school social worker, and she has really helped me a lot.. please do the same!

Just remember that this is not the biggest bump in life, no matter how much it seems that way.

I strongly believe that homeschooling saved my life. Literally. I did not do well in pre-school, as funny as that sounds. My mom decided to homeschool both my sister and me. She is a piano teacher, so she always had alot of kids coming to the house. Instead of having to interact with 20-30 kids which is what it would've been like in school, I was interacting with no more than two at a time. All of the sudden it became much easier for me to learn social skills. I went to one year of Middle School which was a social disaster and I became scared of the other kids. If I was that damaged after just one year, I can't even imagine how I would've been if I had to endure all 8 years of elementary mainstream schooling. I was able to rehabilitate myself during high school and I turned out okay.

Homeschooling is also good for the autodidactic types, and you'd be surprised how much more you learn. I'm no genius by any means, but my mom was able to get me two grades ahead in math and science. Plus she was able to successfully teach me how to play piano. I'd have to say homeschooling is by far the best option for aspies, as long as you have parents who are good teachers. Your parents also have to be good about giving you alternative socialization opportunities. It's easy to become a shut-in when you're homeschooled, and that can be extremely deleterious to any social skills development.

homeschool advantages. NO bullying! Not having to go on school bus and deal with loud annoying kids.
Small class size in comfort of home.

Downsides though no social interactions with different kids. No sports activities after school. No proms or homecoming. No way to test to see if a child has a learning disability.

I think I would have done fine if I was home schooled.

That can all be easily addressed if your parents are doing it right. There are all sorts of activities and classes offered by park districts and community centers. My mom always had me enrolled in some sort of art class or sports team. I was horrible at both, but I don't regret it because it really helped me learn social skills in a structured environment. You don't have to deal with the chaos and uncertainty of recess, but you can still learn how to coexist with other kids in a more constructive manner.

Alot of people like to blame their social ineptitude on homeschooling, but I think I would've been so much worse off if I had to endure years of bullying. I was emotionally traumatized after just one year of that garbage, I don't know how some people managed to survive even longer.