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I have registered on wrong planet because I really need advice and help. I was recently diagnosed with high functioning autism.
In August I moved house 3 and 1/2 hours away from where I use to live. So I changed schools. I loved my last school, in yr 7 and 8 I did not have many friends but in yr 9 I gained loads! and it was great because I never had to hang out in a massive group but got to hang out with smaller groups on different days. And at my new school, everyone is really nice. The new school is awesome, the teachers are awesome and all seem very passionate.
However I'm still anxious, terrified and never happy before school. At school and in lessons it seems okay, sometimes, but before lessons I feel horrible. I am constant dread that something is going to go wrong. Everyone at the school is very welcoming and I was welcomed into a awesome group of friends. But this easter I was unable to visit my old friends due to the travel distance and for 2 weeks I have not left the house, and I have only left my room to play piano or eat. I really want to happy and not be so anxious everytime I think about school. However, even thinking about monday and having to go back to school is making me feel sick. And I'm just sad and want to phone my old friends all the time. Everyone keeps telling me it will get better, but it has not got better,only worse.
Example being, my maths teacher has taken in our maths books and i am aware that my work and writing is illegible, so in my own time usually during the holiday I copy my work from my book into another neat book. But because my teacher has taken my book she will just see a scribbles everywhere and I can't copy out my work from this term and I'm freaking out so much! I really just want to go back to my old school because I never worried. Now I'm worried all the time. How can I fix this?

Hi there. Sorry it's kind of a late response.

You're lucky, did you know that? When you changed schools, you made new friends, and friendship is one of the most important things to have. When I switched colleges, I ended up at a place where I didn't really know anyone, and no one was really interested in being my friend. I'm glad you didn't have to go through that. But losing friends because of distance, that's something that will always hurt.

When I switched colleges, I ended up leaving most of my friends behind. It hurt, because they were some of the first friends I had who accepted who I was, even if I was quirky and messed up things that most normal people wouldn't. Even though my new school is only a few miles away from my old one, it feels like I'm really far away from them, especially since they're so busy all the time. A lot of them are about to graduate soon. That means I won't be seeing them again for a very long time.

Still, friendship is something worth fighting for. You might not be able to hold onto all of your friends. It's going to happen in life for one reason or the other, and people will fade away from your life. It's an awful feeling. But think about it this way: do you think your old friends would want you to be unhappy for the rest of your life? If they're good friends, they probably want to see you grow and move on. Make new friends and enjoy your life!

Going forward isn't always easy. Sometimes, it's easier to look back at all the good things that've happened, all the friends you've made in the past and all the memories you share. But if you spend all your time looking back, you won't be able to move on to the next part of your life. Don't forget about your friends far away, but don't forget that there are more people out there who want to be your friend too.

As for the writing, if it really bothers you so much, make sure you talk to your math teacher before class and tell her what's on your mind. She'll probably be happy that you're taking the time to improve your writing.