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12 Apr 2007, 10:05 pm

I apparently committed a bit of a faux pas last night. I won't go into details, but I left a gathering early, and today one of the people I was with last night called and left a message apologizing for making me uncomfortable. I needed to smooth this over, because, believe it or not, this was one group of people I wasn't uncomfortable with. There were just other reasons I had to leave without explanation. So I got this voice mail message four hours ago, and I just now replied. I couldn't bring myself to call. I'm terrified of making phone calls. Even more so than actually being around people. I guess it's because there's more pressure to actually carry on a conversation when you're on the phone. Oh, and because I just met these people and don't have anyone's email address, the only contact option I had was the number in my call log. Thank God I finally remembered text messaging is a technology that exists. (Yeah, I don't normally text message. It really took me four hours to remember such a thing existed.) I was finally able to reply, without having to speak to anyone. Does anyone else have this fear of phones?



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12 Apr 2007, 11:19 pm

I hadn't been able to put it in those terms, but yeah that's exactly it....a phone conversation is a commitment to conversation, it is the primary focus of the activity (nothing external to concentrate on or escape to)...it's an intense social commitment. If there wasn't facebook (or email and texting, to some degree) I would simply lose contact with people I like...which has sadly happened already with some of my best friends due to fear of phone conversation.



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12 Apr 2007, 11:34 pm

wow - same here. I didn't realize the hows or whys until now but have always had a horrible aversion to the phone. I hate it. I can't answer it unless I know who it is and am prepared to talk to them. Even sometimes when I commit to dialing I hang up when it's answered cuz I have a mini "freak out". I'm so much more comortable talking to answering machines and absolutely love email. I could write all night but god forbid if I have to talk on the phone any more than absolutely necessary.



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13 Apr 2007, 8:24 pm

I dont really ever use my phone except to text...


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13 Apr 2007, 8:49 pm

phenomenon wrote:
I hadn't been able to put it in those terms, but yeah that's exactly it....a phone conversation is a commitment to conversation, it is the primary focus of the activity (nothing external to concentrate on or escape to)...it's an intense social commitment.


Ah! I never could figure out why I hated the phone so much, but that explains it perfectly!



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13 Apr 2007, 8:50 pm

I seriously hate the phone. It rings (which is ANNOYING AS HELL) and then you either have to let it keep ringing or pick it up and talk to someone. You just can't win! As some guy on the internet once said: "F*** THE PHONE!"



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13 Apr 2007, 9:59 pm

I get nervous when talking to people on phones, so I avoid doing it.



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14 Apr 2007, 11:45 am

I rather Text Message people then call them..
In a Text Message, i decide what the structure, the progress and the result is going to be.
In a conversation, it all becomes 'unrestricted' because of the other person.



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14 Apr 2007, 11:50 am

I hate it too.
I never answer the phone.



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14 Apr 2007, 8:57 pm

I don't like mobile phones, so I don't text people. I know how to do it though.



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14 Apr 2007, 10:29 pm

Phone sucks. Messaging sucks. Don't have either. Wish I could stop posting too.



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15 Apr 2007, 8:30 am

RedMage wrote:
I get nervous when talking to people on phones, so I avoid doing it.

Ditto that. I have an intense hatred of calling people though - if they call me it isn't as bad.



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15 Apr 2007, 11:10 am

To be honest, I don't text message and I do have a fear of phones because the only calls I get are either from my parents or from prank callers (I have no idea how they got my number)


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15 Apr 2007, 1:36 pm

I dislike 'telephonic chit chat', and I also avoid calling people. Whilst not liking being called - if its an unknown number I usually answer it and just try and cope