Lazy when it comes to school work

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Is anybody else lazy when it comes to school work? For example, I am relatively smart- I am able to maintain A's and B's without studying. I know that I am able to do well when it comes to papers, so I don't even write the paper til the night before it is due- then I will still get a very high grade. It's like, my laziness is being rewarded or something. Is anyone else like this?

In junior high I became incredibly lazy at my schoolwork. I could learn things and do reasonably well if I really wanted to, ignored the fact that just being at school was about as enjoyable as having a huge, rusty nail in my foot, didn't let the daily idiocy of bullies get to me, and somehow believed that learning all about Canadian politicians and what a drunken ignoramus our 1st prime minister Sir John A. MacDonald was in Social Studies (worst subject ever), was an incredibly important and exciting thing, and cared about other things besides drawing cartoons. I did well in grade school. I was allowed to be myself back then and of course things are easier when you're a kid. I was so not ready to be a teenager.

Most schools have lowered the ball on what qualifies for a good grade. Kids have long been able to do well by cramming to do something at the last minute. That's why it's laughable when someone WITHOUT a learning disability complains about not being able to get good grades. The schools (at least most of them in the USA) already set the bar so low to start with.

In the past I was lazy. At present? I'll tell you after I go resume my studies. Now I feel like there's much more at stake.

In the past, I just felt so exhausted from 15 onwards. People thought I was lazy. I thought I was lazy. Now I think maybe there was something wrong with me and it wasn't just laziness. Other students excelled while I felt exhausted. I thought maybe they felt just as exhausted as well but they were just stronger than me. Maybe some of them did.

I was on heavy meds at the time but I think I had other issues that weren't being addressed. Maybe I was lazy but not nearly as lazy as the school counselor who not only did nothing to help me with my problems but was also completely useless when it came to advice for course selection. There were some very basic things she was supposed to have told me but she didn't. The same for the teachers. I don't place all the blame on them. Much of it was my fault because I didn't ask the right questions.

Speaking of not asking the right questions I think I had deeper problems at the time but I didn't seek out any help. I thought I was a lost cause. I thought I had completely different problems from the ones I now think I had.

Was I lazy? Yes but some of that was a self fulfilling prophesy. I felt so tired so I thought I must be lazy and once I got that idea in my head I got even more lazy. At the time I didn't even notice the very sharp drop in my energy level in April 2003. It seems so obvious now that something was amiss but at the time? Once I got that way I thought I had always been that way but I was energetic before April 2003. I can see that now.

Second chance, community college 2008, I was 20. I start with enthusiasm but by the end of the semester I get onto that same old self defeating self fulfilling prophesy of thinking I'm lazy so therefor I have to act lazy. Part of the problem wasn't the actual workload but I just found some of the assignments confusing so I spent more time trying to figure out what to do than actually doing them. This was too much. Even though I passed all my subjects I still dropped out (is it weird to drop out when you're passing?)

Anyway, now I've stopped taking those meds (waited far too long for that) and I've gotten to the point where my fear of failing at life outweighs my fear of hard work so once again I will return. Third time's a charm right? I may even get a part time job at the same time. A few years ago I would've thought that was sheer lunacy but now it seems like a good way to make up for lost time. A few years ago I wanted to have a lot of free time but now I hate free time. It makes me feel impatient and I can't enjoy any of the things I used to enjoy anyway.
/rant

As a parent I see the same behavior in my daughter (she is a sophmore). I think perhaps because it is because you are both very smart and can 'get away' with it.

It concerns me not because she is being 'lazy' but because she may not have the study skills she will need when she gets to college. I try to work with her and show her some of the skills she will need but I don't know how much she will remember.

If you are truly concerned about being lazy you might want to check into taking some college courses online. It would give you a peek at how they are different and it would provide a challenge. I know in some states her in the US if a high school student takes college courses they can take them for free.

No one likes homework Both my kids are lazy when it comes to homework and schoolwork.
One is one the spectrum one not.
Autistic though and people with Dyspraxia can lack grit and motivation,
So that must be taught.
I most likely have dyspraxia. I taught myself grit.
A good way is small rewards for doing homework and other unpleasant tasks.

Ideas

The knowledge that your done
a trip to the 99 cent store
reading for fun time
video game time
a trip to the library

for my kids its
free downloadable apps
books
video game time
candy corn
charms

I procrastinated all the way through my Ph.D. and still do. I've given two keynote talks this year and for both of them I finally got around to making my slides at ~2am the morning of the talk. What's changed is that I no longer beat myself up over it. I (reliably) do good work when I've boxed myself into a corner, so now I just accept that (and try to make the box a little more comfortable).

This may apply to many schools in rural and urban areas, but generally in many suburbs public schools and with college prep schools, the standards are pretty high. Going along with this is that when the majority of students get good grades, you're more likely because of peer pressure to try to also. Generally, unless you have learning differences, you'll do pretty well in school if your friends do.

I suppose you're beggin the question, how in the world did you manage to get through you're studies at all?

Yes, I can relate to what the other's have said. I'd say I'm smart, just very unmotivated and lazy.

I remember my last English assignment, I didn't actually put much effort into at all - and still got a B-. I had to do a draft over the holiday's - I slacked off for nearly 2 weeks and spent the last 3 days doing it. The first week back at school I got my draft back Wednesday and was given just 2 days to complete my final copy. In just two study sessions on Wednesday afternoon and Friday morning, I rushed enough changes to boost the essay's quality and turned it in the same Friday.

Such little effort for that...

I used to find school very difficult in the past and always got low or average grades, some years (like year 7) getting all A's and B's.

In recent years I've just found school too easy, and this has made me less motivated to even bother trying hard at all. I'm still getting as high as A- to as low as C- in many classes...

I was a severe procrastinator throughout all my school years and into my personal life a well (I.e. putting chores I hate on hold for a weeks on end. I ended up diagnosed with ADHD and the meds help keep focus on what needs doing so procrastination is slowly improving considering I've had it all my life.