A Suggestion to College Students

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I would prefer to have a social life but I am finding it difficult. Aside from finding few people with similar interests it seems I repell people (lol). I can make what seems to be friendly conversation but it takes great effort. I have a hard time making eye contact and being in a group of people, even a small one makes me feel overwhelmed. For this reason studying in a group is nearly impossible for me. The reason I am up so late is because I neglected actual school work for stressing over social interactions and must finish a journal and a paper before tomorrow, noon. I have considered allowing myself to be entirely cold to everyone as I don't think I can manage both school work and relationships but, considering I am a member of a cooporating club team, this would also cause problems.

I know other people must have similar problems in college. How have/do you dealt/deal with them? At times is it not worth making the effort?

There's a ton of clubs you could join I think...

Like at my school we have a 'societies' that are course specific (so in my case Cultural Anthropology) and they organise a lot of activities you could join, not just parties, but outings to museums, lectures, symposiums, debates, fundraisers, movie nights etc.

There are also a couple of volunteer organisations (e.g. amnesty international)...
There's an 'alternative' club (no idea what they do though, probably ponder about life)

etc. etc.

So, ask around and I'm sure you'll find something you'll enjoy doing:) And if not, and if you're brave enough, start a club about a subject you do find interesting?;)





With socializing, I've noticed that the people who are seen as 'alternative'* are usually easiest to make friends with as they seem to be slightly more open, so they take the chance to get to know you (not everyone is like this of course and I'm not saying all of them make the best friends as it all depends on the individual and not whatever subculture they belong to *breathe* but from my experience, it's easier).


*as in having different ideas and opinions about the world than the average person. Take it in the broadest sense.


I think the hardest part is to keep friends, as I get tired of socializing pretty quickly,
e.g. today I made a new friend and we talked a bit in class and then he walked with me to the trainstation and THEN he needed to take the same train as me when we switched trains, so... well 3 hours is more than enough for me:P
At the end of it it was really hard to keep talking.
He invited me over for tea sometime and I'm already freaking out about it:P

And then there's the whole 'not sending out the wrong signals' thing, which I suck at. iehtoihdtdhotrdh