Did anyone ever approach the loner (you)?

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22 Jun 2010, 8:30 am

People did that a lot in high school. Unsurprisingly, none of them were the people that became my friends. I remember even sitting with people I wouldn't have chosen to otherwise in tenth grade so I wouldn't look alone (of course, this was a very small high school, so it failed in that nothing new happened. Also, this was in the days before Facebook, so I've no idea what happened after I moved away from that school)

In college, people are masters of minding their own business. This is impressive enough that eating lunch alone isn't as much of a problem as it was in high school.



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22 Jun 2010, 11:21 pm

I had a group of seniors approach the loner table one time. I guess they didn't feel like sitting anywhere else. One time they even tried to claim the table, and I just looked at them kinda weird and then sat down and minded my own business.



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23 Jun 2010, 6:45 am

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Sure they do - I've had women come up out of the clear blue and invite me to have sex with them when I was just sitting around minding my own business. Not nearly often enough mind you, but it has happened. Don't misunderstand - I don't mean that was the first thing out of their mouth - only that they clearly approached with the intention of flirting and wasted no time getting to the point.


Lucky :lol:

Sometimes if I'm sitting alone and someone I know happens to walk past me, they'll sit down and talk for a bit, but I can't recall ever having someone random coming up to me and start talking.



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23 Jun 2010, 8:55 am

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My friends like to say I am a major freak magnet because weird homeless street people flock to me. I also get the weird touchy feely people for some reason who have to touch me on my shoulder or arms. I workerd my old resteraunt job where there was a guy who had to put his hands on everybody. A waitress got tired of him doing it to her so she gave him an open hand slap in the face and the boss let her get away with it. So one day I was working on cutting up some cellery to go with some chicken wings so I was busy trying not to cut off my fingers when the jerk tried to talk to me when I was cutting so I moved and he followed me. I moved again and he grabbed my pony tail to pull me back so I slapped him and the boss ran up to him and fired him. It was like he got off making me uncomfortable and all I have to say is that it was worth cracking him one to see the look on his face.


The boss "let her get away with it"? Sounds more like you have a great boss and if anything the lady slapped this guy in self-defensive. This guy is much more of a liability touching people unexpectedly or at all if anything. If he had my profession as a teacher, he would not survive and might even get on the child abuse list on top of that for something dumb and unfair.



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25 Jun 2010, 5:52 pm

I remember sitting in lunch alone and there was this kid who was in my gym class and always sitting away from people in gym but he came up to me and we talked for a minute or two about stupid stuff then he quickly wrote something on sheet of paper and handed it me to very nervously. I looked at what he wrote, he pretty much said he was gay and he liked me then he took the paper back quickly and put it in his pocket. I wrote on a napkin that I was not gay but liked him. He then stormed out of the cafeteria. When I saw him in gym later on in the day he told me he would make sure I would experience hell on earth if I ever told anyone. :oops: He later tormented me more then the rest of evryone else. After graduation he joined the marine core and is married now. I wonder a lot about this guy.



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07 Jul 2010, 8:31 am

It's happened to me plenty of times. That's where most of my friends come from, actually. I'll be sitting, minding my own business and someone will be interested by what I'm reading/writing/playing or watching on laptop etc. My quirkiness makes them even more interested and it usually ends with friendship. :D



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09 Jul 2010, 6:33 am

Whenever anyone approached me out of pity I just didn't want to know. I would walk away from them. It was only when people were genuinely interested in talking to me that I stayed. I preferred to be left alone rather than have the popular girls approach me because I was alone. The only reason they approached loners was so it would look good on them.


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09 Jul 2010, 7:38 am

Yeah, when I started my current school a year ago, two people in my class came up to me to start talking to me because I stood alone.
But it could be because I was the only native English speaker and we were going to start IB together :lol:

I'm usually the one approaching others who are alone. There's one girl in my class who usually sits alone because everyone else thinks she's annoying (Which she is a little) so I usually ask her to come with me and my friends. My friends don't mind, so everyone's happy :)


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09 Jul 2010, 2:13 pm

yeah this happens sometimes but most of the time its not in a good way. i seem to attract people who are completely different to me in every way. for instance a lot of so called 'popular' boys tried to talk to me, some who are regarded as violent or fight starters, but they werent talking to me in a threatening way, almost friendly. its either that or dumba** kids who want to try and rob me or pick a fight, and the ones who do try it usualy do so and fail on more than 3 different occasions. they would always say something like "oi gimme a pound/your phone brav" or try and pick a fight with me. this one kid sat next to me on the bus and said "lemme see that ipod" which eventualy turned into "gimme dat ipod or i'll hook you on ya jaw" which he repeated about 30 times throughout the remainder of the bus journey whilst i was glaring him in the face. after i got up he did nothing at all, his threats carried nothing.

that said, people do approach me but in the wrong way. i seem to attract scrub with nothing better to do than to try get a pound coin off of the next guy they see on the bus. although i do seem to get a few people who are generaly not scumbag human beings and wanna do something other than fail to extort things off me so its all good.

so glad i finished school for now, im going to my school's six form in september which has pretty high grade boundaries compared to most so even if the scrub at my school thought of something other than "this school is s***! i cant wait to move to a better college/six form!"
they most likely wouldnt be able to get in seeing as most of them dont/wont have many qualifications above c grades, and if so not many at all, so they wont be getting in :)


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09 Jul 2010, 2:21 pm

Rarely. Best example was in 9th grade I was sitting by the gym messing around on my laptop during lunch. Some girl comes up and says this is her last day at the school so she wanted to talk to all the hot guys before she left lol. Didn't go so well after that, I was too christian and she was too artsy fartsy vegan stoner.


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12 Jul 2010, 4:46 pm

its actually how i met my best and possibly only friend. lantz.
He reached out for me, just as I reached out to him.

it ended up working really well, because he just happens to understand me...in an odd way



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12 Jul 2010, 6:06 pm

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yeah this happens sometimes but most of the time its not in a good way. i seem to attract people who are completely different to me in every way. for instance a lot of so called 'popular' boys tried to talk to me, some who are regarded as violent or fight starters, but they werent talking to me in a threatening way, almost friendly. its either that or dumba** kids who want to try and rob me or pick a fight, and the ones who do try it usualy do so and fail on more than 3 different occasions. they would always say something like "oi gimme a pound/your phone brav" or try and pick a fight with me. this one kid sat next to me on the bus and said "lemme see that ipod" which eventualy turned into "gimme dat ipod or i'll hook you on ya jaw" which he repeated about 30 times throughout the remainder of the bus journey whilst i was glaring him in the face. after i got up he did nothing at all, his threats carried nothing.


we had two scumbag brothers that did crap like this on the school bus ride home after school one day they put the four kids that were constantly robbed up near the bus driver and there was a school bus aid with us that was never with us before. The little criminals fell for it the bus aid and the driver took the entire bus to the Depew police station. The driver walked off the buss and came back with two big cops who took the two criminals off the bus with three of the victims. That was the last time they ever rode the school bus. The two criminals had a 30 minute walk to school everyday even in the rain, snow, and heat :twisted: .


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13 Jul 2010, 12:55 am

People do this all the time. They ask if I want to sit with them and I usually say no. It's worse when they either hit on me, because I'm not with anyone else, or just sit down next to me and decide to "strike up a conversation". People seem to think eating or sitting and reading alone consitutes a need for then to aleviate that lack of social contact with their own presence.

In high school, I would avoid people in the cafeteria and sit alone. I hate eating with other people. I don't and likely will never understand the need to socialize while consuming food...



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14 Jul 2010, 8:02 pm

Yes. One person did once, and it was the most epic thing ever.
I was sitting in a tree and she climbed up and said hi. I was staying at a school where you live and stay on for a year so we were all new and such. Sadly when school ended, so did our friendship. I cried my eyes out when the last day of school came because I knew we'd be slipping apart, she moved a good 3-4hr trainride to the north afterwards and I had no clue how to keep the contact , she rarely ever used the internet and I didn't always know when it was alright to send her textmessages and such.
One of the best friendships i've ever had, I still have and wear the necklace she gave me :)

In my other school years I have been much of a loner, the only friendships I had were if there were other loners in the class.. Kind of seems less dangerous to approach someone thats sitting alone.



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15 Jul 2010, 11:31 am

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People do this all the time. They ask if I want to sit with them and I usually say no. It's worse when they either hit on me, because I'm not with anyone else, or just sit down next to me and decide to "strike up a conversation". People seem to think eating or sitting and reading alone consitutes a need for then to aleviate that lack of social contact with their own presence.

In high school, I would avoid people in the cafeteria and sit alone. I hate eating with other people. I don't and likely will never understand the need to socialize while consuming food...

well said :)

i dont know why people always assume that because someone is alone they MUST have company whether they want it or not. especialy when its at a time when you generaly wouldnt be interested in talking, like your example or when you happen to be doing important work (which they should be doing too but feel they must go out of their way to socialise with you. not that i have a huge problem with socialising or anything :D

and by the way, where the hell did you get your avatar?! its freaking AWESOME! :lol:


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15 Jul 2010, 12:55 pm

No, barely anyone talked to me. When they did, they would maybe ask me a question, then I would answer and the conversation would end. They would look awkward for a second and then leave.

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