Is it a good idea to tell friends about aspergers

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Not at the start of a friendship, and not unless they've started revealing their inner-most secrets to you first.

It also depends on how severe your AS is; if it's mild, I wouldn't bother. If it's severe and they're starting to go 'wtf' every second sentence, then maybe.

I pick and choose who I tell. For those that I've told, it's helped the relationships. It helps to explain why I don't laugh at some of their jokes, why I don't look them in the eye, and so on. It's actually spurred some of them to take it upon themselves to research Aspergers. In those cases, it's actually helped the friendship bond.

I have one friend who I know years back and still see almost every day. I think that you have to be friends with that person for long and learn whether he will understand or not (in my case he certainly will). If you are completely sure, go for it. I personally share secrets with this friend so if I decide to tell him I wouldn't even worry a tiny bit. Right now nobody knows I have it except my familiy and thousands of people in this site

Most of the time I let them figure it out, if they didn't already know prior.

What i've found is that some people have preconceived notions of someone who's autistic or has AS thanks to the media, and once I tell some people, I notice they act differently (usually they act overly nicer to me, which I find discomforting) from how they did before. Most people I know that I haven't told/didn't know before, just think i'm a little bit weird or eccentric, which doesn't affect their notions of me and i'm far better off with this than them suddenly acting differently towards me.

Most of my closest friends, though, when I tell them/knew already, don't really care and don't act any different towards me and some of them have even forgotten.

If they are real friends who will accept you for who you are, then you could tell them. Though it is none of their business...

Disclosing your diagnosis can be a very touchy subject. Unless your behavioral anomalies are likely to become obvious, I would recommend a wait and see approach in "coming out". I use the term "coming out" because disclosing AS is very similar to a lesbian or gay man coming out of the closet...and facing the possibility of losing friends as a result of their prejudice. Be careful.

Id say you should disclose aspergers to your friends after you've known for a while and if you think them knowing would be beneficial to the friendship. But heres the thing from my experiance, it doesnt really make a huge differences. Sometimes my friends have forgotten and not really thought about it unless I kept on emphasising to them(which I wouldnt recogmend). Like they know Im socially clueless, I tell em I have aspergers, and then they still wonder why Im socially clueless?

there are times when i feel i have to. they come rarely but their purpose is to weed out the ignorant(like this kid at my youth group who decided to tell all that having a relationship with an autistic person was a bad idea because we're all tempermental and slow. turns out someone else at my group has an asd and he and most everyone else put her right) and leave those who would be good friends or to foster understanding of my lack of social skills. sometimes i just don't feel like lying about everything all the time. it shouldn't be done if you're uncomfortable about it obviously. its a personal thing.

The only people who have reacted negatively to my diagnosis are those who have later proven themselves to be people whose personalities are simply incompatible with my own.
All of my close friends and most of my acquaintances are aware that I have Asperger's syndrome and are very supportive and understanding. I exclude from my previous statement those friends of mine who themselves have been diagnosed with ASDs not because they aren't supportive or understanding but because they understand what it is like to have Asperger's or NVLD and, so, they understand by default.

I chose no because I will tell close friends, but not everyone and not as soon as I meet them.

My mother told my aunt, who told everyone else.

Now everyone treats me funny...

No, I wouldn´t. They can easily see the way I behave.

I only tell close friends/family members who understand and are trustworthy. Some people handle things like this poorly and I wouldn't feel comfortable discussing it with somebody I don't know very well.

I'm walking around and trying to tell my friends but it's hard!