Aspies, do you like to go to parties with loud booming music

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I love going to parties with people that I know.

I also love loud music.


Sucks when my favorite songs aren't played though.

Now that I know how to dance, I love loud music... with a strong regular beat.

And I don't mean dancing as in kind of moving randomly, I mean like swing dancing and other types that actually require paying attention to the percussion. Once I found out how systematic and rule-based dancing really is, I have learned to enjoy it way way more.

F**k no! I hate anything loud.

It's pretty much how I got into dancing. A few years ago, I started taking some swing dancing classes. It took me a few weeks to learn the moves, but in time, I picked things up. Eventually, I was able to swing dance fairly comfortably, and the girls started complimenting me on my dancing skills. This carried over into club dancing. Once I learned what it means to "follow the beat", I was able to dance to virtually any kind of music. Simply put, one note = one step, and the steps are determined by the genre of music. Now I actually love to dance, as long as I can follow the music that's playing.

No i do not like loud music. I have hearing problems. BUT wear hearing aids. and have sensory issues. so noise causes sensory overloads.

I have had sensory issues with hearing before i lost my hearing.

Did you learn the moves by dancing with others (practice makes perfect) or watching someone else dance? Because I tried those things at a contradancing session (contradancing is, I think, somewhat like squaredancing) I was invited to (I went because I thought there would be some attractive females there), yet it seemed my only savoir-faire from that night was that I should never try any form of dancing again. Still, I wonder if a book of some kind that detailed the correct moves would have helped me.

That is one of the fastest ways to put me into sensory overload, which is far from being pleasant, so no. I do not enjoy them. Since my time at university, I have been to about four or five large parties or large events. I have only enjoyed one of them (the science department Christmas party). Even then, I had to keep leaving to go out into the halls for a few minutes every short amount of time.

As for the dancing, I would suppose that would be very difficult if one does not like to be touched by another person. (Even shaking hands bothers me.)

I took actual dance classes at a studio. The instructors were great, and they broke down the moves into steps I could easily grasp, as well as the concepts of leading and following. Also, they used music theory to explain how to follow the beat, a concept that kept eluding me until then. So now, I can comfortably dance in most situations.

i don't like large party's the crowds of people i don't know but i like loud music expecialy heavy metal or rock it can be anoying if the treble is to high then it will hurt i don't mibd get to gathers with freind i know

I've never been to a party, so I do not know whether or not that would annoy me.

NEVER. The last time I went to a party I felt sick and awkward. Dance parties, in fact most parties make me depressed. Loud music not to my taste makes me want to leave immediately.

I only like small gatherings with people I know.

Like many here have pointed out, loud music rules out talking. Which is why dancing comes in to fill the gap. I honestly have never taken a course in how to dance, but I can dance alright. The thing is, dancing requires confidence, if you think you look stupid, it'll come out in body language. If you don't have the confidence, do the shuffle. The shuffle is where you stand in a circle with some other people, move back and forth, and move your fists in a cicular motion. Its hard to explain, but look around at dances and you'll see lots of people doing it, just follow what they're doing. Shuffling allows you to fulfill people's need for you to "dance", without putting strain on your self-confidence.

If you can pluck up the courage to do so, ask a girl you talk to sometimes to a dance (note that this doesnt mean she'll be your girlfriend, although it can be a step in the right direction if you want it to be). To dance with a girl, you put your hands on her sides and she puts hers on your shoulders. Note: for the next few minutes, you will have to regulate eye contact with her. Don't stare, but don't keep constantly looking away either. You might be close enough (physically) to talk, if so, make smalltalk. While making smalltalk, glance away every few seconds(just glance, don't move your head) to avoid staring. When the song is over, it may be proper to give the girl a hug. Give a firm hug, but not a bonecrushing one. If she seems to be giving a very light hug, disengage. End the event with a smile, make some offhand comment along the lines of "it was a nice song", and get back to shuffling. This all may sound complicated, but trust me, its intuitive once you get started.

Ooooooooooooooh, yeah... I just LOVE Techno and Metal! I just love parties like that, I love loud music!

I tend to have panic attacks when near loud music, so no, I guess.

I don't mind loud music at parties. It's the loud people that bother me.

I wouldn't mind if the people who held such parties had any musical taste whatsoever.