Crying because I never went to college :-( .

Post Reply New Topic

...Thank you , Jaco , but I'm not sure if that is true for SFCC .
More later...........

Wait a couple of years make some money and then go back to school. Do not make the same mistake it and I waited until I was in my mid thirties and went back to school.

...I'm not sure what you mean .











te="frenchmanflats"]Wait a couple of years make some money and then go back to school. Do not make the same mistake it and I waited until I was in my mid thirties and went back to school.[/quote]

Probably this has already been said -

college is NOT for everybody, it can break you - one guy who wasa in a few classes with me killed himself. Our oldest decided againd cllege and we applaud him. Thesecond signed on, and so far she is okay.

But you need to look at who and where you are - not what you're not.

...So what am I supposed to do to improve my status and have a place to live , not to mention have my LIFE-long denied dream ?????
I'll be waiting for your answer (I won't hold my breath , though ) .










ote="QueenBeeSylv"]Probably this has already been said -

college is NOT for everybody, it can break you - one guy who wasa in a few classes with me killed himself. Our oldest decided againd cllege and we applaud him. Thesecond signed on, and so far she is okay.

But you need to look at who and where you are - not what you're not.[/quote]

I agree with the above quote, but I read all the posts and it seems like you just want to go to college because you want to have a home (due to repetition phrasing 'residential college'). If this is why you want to go, try something else -- college is hard for a young person, so it will be much harder for you at your age. I don't want to be negative, but it is reality. If the only thing you want is housing, there are easier ways. Knowledge can be obtained by going to the public library. Besides, you must move out of the dorms between semesters. Where will you go?

College was not a complete waste of time, because I am very educated and like that very much, but I would have had the curiosity to seek out all of that information on my own. I have 2 college degrees in science, 2 majors and 2 minors with a few extra subjects I explored, however, I am not financially better off than a homeless person. I do have a home, but that came about because I qualify for social services. No one will hire me because all ads say "extroverted personality and must have good communication skills". If you believe having a college degree will land you a job instantly, it won't.

I am an excellent worker, but my interactions with people is strained. I don't allow anyone to speak to me on personal matters. I can't do it for very long and it drains me -- takes away mental energy I need for my work. I have to fully concentrate on what I am doing -- splitting my focus makes me feel very anxious, and I mess up whatever I am doing. This makes me angry. I tend to yell at people to leave me alone if they are going on and on too long. I wish I could change that, but some people just won't stop talking.

I have no friends, I cut off all contact with family (no love lost there), and no one will hire me without references or a phone. My life is not any better off with a college education. I have a "can-do" attitude and am a creative problem solver. Even that hasn't helped me because I think I am just living in the wrong place. You don't seem to have a good attitude (always seeing the negative), but I could be wrong. It could also just be your age and years of hardship has broken your spirit. I wish I could give you that back, but it is something you have to find for yourself.

My talents are wasted just because I have bad communication/interaction skills. It really is a problem I am trying to solve. I can't help the bad communications skills (I have tried), but I can seek out a different solution, which I encourage you to do also. Think about non-conventional ways to find a career that puts your natural talents to good use. My solution for myself: I have decided to learn German and seek out temp-residency in Germany to find out if I fit in better there. Their society seems to have more introverts and values introverted talents. All I can do is try, since I can't think of anything else to do.

I hope you find a solution.
Take Care.

...Thank you for your concern , but I want it . I believe it would help me , the residential angle aside .
I would like to learn filmaking , for one thing , and make contacts thereof ~ That could be do-able there .










="IgA"]

I agree with the above quote, but I read all the posts and it seems like you just want to go to college because you want to have a home (due to repetition phrasing 'residential college'). If this is why you want to go, try something else -- college is hard for a young person, so it will be much harder for you at your age. I don't want to be negative, but it is reality. If the only thing you want is housing, there are easier ways. Knowledge can be obtained by going to the public library. Besides, you must move out of the dorms between semesters. Where will you go?

College was not a complete waste of time, because I am very educated and like that very much, but I would have had the curiosity to seek out all of that information on my own. I have 2 college degrees in science, 2 majors and 2 minors with a few extra subjects I explored, however, I am not financially better off than a homeless person. I do have a home, but that came about because I qualify for social services. No one will hire me because all ads say "extroverted personality and must have good communication skills". If you believe having a college degree will land you a job instantly, it won't.

I am an excellent worker, but my interactions with people is strained. I don't allow anyone to speak to me on personal matters. I can't do it for very long and it drains me -- takes away mental energy I need for my work. I have to fully concentrate on what I am doing -- splitting my focus makes me feel very anxious, and I mess up whatever I am doing. This makes me angry. I tend to yell at people to leave me alone if they are going on and on too long. I wish I could change that, but some people just won't stop talking.

I have no friends, I cut off all contact with family (no love lost there), and no one will hire me without references or a phone. My life is not any better off with a college education. I have a "can-do" attitude and am a creative problem solver. Even that hasn't helped me because I think I am just living in the wrong place. You don't seem to have a good attitude (always seeing the negative), but I could be wrong. It could also just be your age and years of hardship has broken your spirit. I wish I could give you that back, but it is something you have to find for yourself.

My talents are wasted just because I have bad communication/interaction skills. It really is a problem I am trying to solve. I can't help the bad communications skills (I have tried), but I can seek out a different solution, which I encourage you to do also. Think about non-conventional ways to find a career that puts your natural talents to good use. My solution for myself: I have decided to learn German and seek out temp-residency in Germany to find out if I fit in better there. Their society seems to have more introverts and values introverted talents. All I can do is try, since I can't think of anything else to do.

I hope you find a solution.
Take Care.[/quote]

...As for summertime , maybe I'd be HL in summertime , maybe I'd try for some " year-round " thing (which I believe is possible) , maybe I'd try to make well-off acquaitances who need their extra houses house-sat .
As for the debt , as I said , I am 55 , if I die , whatever - And do you see any other thing that might , at least , increase my status/income/contacts as decent uni could ?

...If I am sufficiently " perky/happy talk " - Or , as I am doing now in asking for help where I guarentee I won't ask for cash , " stuff " presents , or a place to stay from the helper , don't ask for " much " , will people help me ?

[quote="ASS-P"]...I'm not sure what you mean .









Make some money first for a couple of years to get it out of your system. Then if you feel your ready go to school

Like I can solve all my own problems.

Still - Every one of us has a path - we walk one step at a time, we can't see round the corner. Head for college - if it's not for you you'll be blocked. Head for something else - the path could twist and dump you in college. After all, the biggerst thing is - don't give up and just sit.

...Pseudo-" new age " BS ! !! !! !! !! !!
Perhps said while sitting on your mammy's couch ...........

...May I say that I want to go to uni , and if I do not , I will CRY FOREVER ?
furthermore , what " other thing that you feel I should do " - that you will outline details about - do you have ??? f**k , yeah ! !! !! !! !!

"Perhps said while sitting on your mammy's couch" - I have NO vaguest what you meant by that.

Nobody further from New Age than I am, but what does "pseudo-New Age" even mean?

Bottom line. You want what you want - Quote. You want to moan and sulk - Quote.

You don't have to want that, but if you want to moan more than you want to do, who am I to stop you?

...What is it you think I won't " DO " ????????????
I have been TRYING and TRYING , BEGGING for help that might let me improve my health & situation , do the Community College (not uni , CC ~ so I am being " not wanting too much now " which presumably might please some people who might give help ) and YOU'RE certainly not offering anything ! Foo on you .



























eenBeeSylv"]"Perhps said while sitting on your mammy's couch" - I have NO vaguest what you meant by that.

Nobody further from New Age than I am, but what does "pseudo-New Age" even mean?

Bottom line. You want what you want - Quote. You want to moan and sulk - Quote.

You don't have to want that, but if you want to moan more than you want to do, who am I to stop you?[/quote]