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Well I always had a single room which was good for me study wise but it is best to have a balance between academics and going to college sport events. It works since I got 3.62 GPA for my fall semester because I went to all Mason Men Home Basketball to have a good time with friends.

During my whole dorm experience (4 out of my 5 college years) I only had one roommate who was friendly and awesome with me even though we barely hung out outside of the dorms together. The rest were either more anti-social or just ungodly awful. The less said about the last dormmate I ever had in college...the better, heh.

I think it is VERY important at the very least, if you're a severe anti-social Aspie (or in my case, have severe social anxiety) to get your own dorm room...even if you don't get your own bathroom. In fact, I hate to think what would happen if the people whom I've shared semi-private bathrooms with gave me s**t about how I left it regardless of how hard I try to keep it clean (I shed a lot of hair). Perhaps in some cases...having to walk down the hall in a robe to the public bathrooms may be a hassle but it's worth avoiding the s**t you could get from people. Messes in the public dorm bathrooms are expected and copable with me.

Of course, nothing beats the single bedroom apartment experience...if you can afford it. My parents were kind enough to allow me this experience for my last year in college, given that my older sister only stayed in the college dorms for one year.

Moving in and out of the dorms was always THE WORST part of my college dorm experience. So much stuff and they gave me only one small cart to use for a 30 min move in for $5. They won't even let you pay and extra $5 to keep it for a little longer. No effin way does it take 30 mins to move in and out of the dorms.

Next year I have a roommate of my own choosing. Still a roommate, but I'd rather have a healthy roommate relationship than a single room. My roommate for this year moved out several days ago and in these last few days of the semester, as everyone's moving out, it's easy to forget that there is a world around you - normal-type people doing normal-type things.

I lived in a large residence hall filled with freshmen my first year. did not socialize much and kept to myself. felt lonely and isolated and didn't know what to say to others when walking down the halls. i had a very outgoing roommate and she always brought the party home which made me more uncomfortable.

Second year lived in a two bdroom apartment in a shared room. 4 girls total. Was a mess.

Now: have my own room in an apt: best housing choice ever.

I had a great experience with dorm life. I've been in a single room, I got that guarenteed by the student disability people, so I can go out for a little while and socialize if I want or, more likely, I can sit in my room and watch TV and study alone. It's great!

^Lucky you. I think I'd need to commute --- dorm space is scarce in the colleges I am going to apply to... ^

I too, am living with roommate hell... I live in a double room remade into a triple, and, well, I simply sleep there. I don't get on with my roommates, because they hate my quirks. I can't talk to them because they don't listen to what I say. I wish they did, but of course, they do not. If I'm not talking trash about one of the other people on the floor, they don't want to hear it. And I don't talk trash.

I am lucky, that I found a great community center thats open daily from 8am to 9pm where I do all of my work. But when I get back to my dorm, I want to go to sleep around 10-11. My roommates ALWAYS are having parties in my room. Or orgies. (Yes, I have been orgy-iled...) And I have to try to sleep through it. I have gotten very good at falling asleep when there are 6 people in my room, the lights on, dance music blaring, people yelling, etc. It's weird, because I'm usually very very sensitive to sound, but I'm getting better now. I can't do sudden sounds, but I can now fall asleep through anything if I pull my blanket over my head. My roommates have been abusive before, and snoop around my stuff and do all sorts of bad things, and the authorities won't help me either, because they claim that I'm "just not adjusting to college life". It's not that I'm not adjusting to college and living away from home. I'm not adjusting to being bullied and abused in my dorm room. And no one should adjust to that. Essentially I use my dorm room as the place where I sleep and shower and nothing else.

If you can, I suggest trying to either
1) pick your roommates based on trust, so they know about you and understand you, etc. and will accept your quirks and allow you to live and let live.
or
2) Get a single room. Having retreat space is important. I'm lucky in that I found a great community center where I can sit and do work without people expecting me to be uber-social like the dorm requires. I'm really grateful for that, but I really would've benefited from a single room, mentally.