Does anyone else HATE socialising as much I do?

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Depends who I'm with. I get very nervous if I don't know many people, and refuse to go if I don't know anyone. Even then I usually stay with a small group of my close friends and don't have anything to do with anyone else. If people start talking about my interest, films, sometimes I can't help and butt in, usually to answer a question I know the answer to but they don't but I get scared doing it. I find socialising slightly easier after having alcohol.

There are times that I enjoy socializing and there are times that I do not. The problem is I would probably enjoy it even more if I was better at it. I think that there has to be a time when you enjoy social interaction. I mean, we are human and humans are meant to be social beings, even though everybody has varying degrees of interest when it comes to socializing.

*Nods*

On the plus side, my family accepts it now I don't mind them inviting people anymore - it means better than average dinner + desert, before going back up to the computer.

I personally hate socializing because I can rarely find other individuals with similar interests to mine. Plus I can't really talk to people anymore without this thought running through my head that every person you connect to has the potential to stab you in the back, since that has happened to me a lot.

I only like socializing on my own terms which are:

1. Ideally, the socialization should happen at my place so I can be responsible for the food / entertainment / mood
2. If not, then I prefer it to be somewhere there's no alcohol like a coffeehouse, state park, a casual restaurant, etc.

I don't like what liquor does to people so you'll never find me in a bar-like atmosphere. In theory, I don't mind going over friends' houses, however, too many people think TV watching is more important than good conversation...even when people are over to visit.

Since I don't watch tv, I usually prefer for people to come to my place than for me to go to theirs. (Plus, my husband is an amazing cook, so his food makes a good conversation starter for those awkward moments.)

Right now, we live in a motorhome, so when his friends visit, we usually eat and talk outside as it's too small to have more than 4 people in here at a time.

I agree, I hate being around people who drink because they always tend to get a little nuts. What's worst is just because I've turned 19, everyone in my family has been trying to get me to drink despite the fact that I keep saying I don't want to, because I've seen what happens when they drink.

Socializing is agonizing to me every time, that is when it's strangers. I will get use to people after a while and even get comfortable with a select few but being forced to socialize with strangers is just a chore and I will always try to avoid it at all times.

depends, i LOVE talking to my friends, but i HATE talking to my family, teachers, or strangers

Same here, I hate TV except for a very few shows and my husband is a good cook. I still hate to have people over though, because our house is always messy. I hate to clean and my husband flat out refuses to clean. That and nobody in their right mind would want to come in here unless they like cats, 'cause there is hair everywhere and my cat loves to climb on people especially strangers!

If I must socialize, I prefer to go out for dinner or do something for a few hours, not all day, with just a few friends. And increasingly I won't do it unless I know there will be someone else I can actually talk to and have something in common with (as opposed to, say, my husband's guy friends who only talk cars. ) I can't wait til I can get an iPhone so I can be like half our friends are already: any awkward silences are spent surfing the net.

I hate it with just about all people. There are exceptions though. I have a few good friends who I enjoy hanging out with because we all have the same sense of humour. Not too much though, or I'll get stressed out for some reason.

it depends, if i'm having a small intelligent conversation with a few of my freinds i'm cool with it, but if its some huge herd of neuro typicals cramped together talking about football, and skins and stuff it sucks, you cant even get a word in the conversation!, they even seem to have this subliminal olfactory sense to detect social awkwardness and the herd slowly migrates away from you. and they have such strange meeting places for socialising, like outside supermarkets ( groceries). i mean why? wildrebeast gather at a waterhole, blue whales gather in an uncharted region of the ocean, garter snakes gather in the crevices of rock, crocodiles gather in huge dry areas and neuro typicals gather at a shop..... . and they always insist that you act like them and adjust to their abstract concept of normal, no thanks, its like a yak asking a komodo dragon why he doesnt hang out in the tundra with him, its like bill gates asking if slim shady would like to hang out with his nerd freinds, it doesnt happen nor will it ever happen, if this is what socialising is then i'm a proud member of hermets united!

Why is this in the school and college forum? You do socialize in school, but you don't only interact there.
I don't hate socializing, I just find it hard to do. I want to get to know people and be friends, but it's hard to start socializing and hard to maintain the friendships.

If you mean forced socializing (AKA, group work and partners), then, yes, I hate it.

When I first got to college, I was of the mentality that I should attempt socialization as much as possible from the start, because if I didn't, I would end up becoming a hermit and eventually regret it. So I ended up going to a lot of meetings for clubs, even for things I had hardly any interest in. When going to things "for the sake of socialization", I tended to feel alone even though I was in a room full of people. More often than not, two or more people would be already having an in-depth conversation, and I would force myself to try and talk to them only to find out that we don't actually have much in common and there was no real point.

Things turned out better when I limited myself to going to things that I was actually interested in, and the friends I made were more "natural". I honestly do enjoy socializing with people when I am comfortable with their personality and we share interests, humor, stories, etc. If it's something like a dinner, I prefer not having it with just one other person, because then it will feel like a date. Unless, of course, it's a family member or someone I haven't seen in a long time (in that case, there will be a lot to talk about). I'd say I'm most comfortable when there are 2-4 others sitting with me, but if it's like 10, then too many people start talking and I tend to shy away from the conversation.

I also have realized that there is no shame in being alone at the computer on a Friday night when many others are out there getting trashed. As long as you are honestly enjoying yourself, it is irrelevant whether or not you are with other people.

I absolutly love it!! I'm in high school and am going to an art school and I live in dorms at the school. My roommate is amazing, I have tons of amazing friends, and then, when I'm alone, I feel stupid and lonley. I LOVE people!! And I want to become a famous actor!

Well, I don't have problems with socializing just as long as the people I am around don't cause drama, because I really can't stand drama and unnecessary arguments. I also like to avoid people who act fake as well. I would even love to be invited to big things like parties and that kind of stuff as well.