I'm being bullyed and i don't know what to do

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Can you take a self-defense class? It would probably help you a lot more than the explanations.

I have kicked someone in the sac before - he was neutralized for approx. 5 minutes.

You in Upper school? Make friends with the sixth-formers, they'll sort it out. (It worked for me.)

it's true, it happened to me sometimes (the reverse). 5 mn if you're really lucky. it's so painful i don't have the heart to do it to others ,unless they do it on me, then it's open season, repeatedly and not only on the "boys". for short, i won't do it to you, but you do it on me and i'll just stop when you're barely breathing.

it hurts just to think about it, damn.

FIGHT BACK!!

evil triumphs when good men do nothing.

telling the teachers and principle won't do anything

I know from experience. I was bullied in grade 8, and I fought back in rage.

I was smaller than he was, but true rage is the ultimate force.

speaking from experience as an EX bully id say the best thing to do is stand up for your self, i used to bully people all the time not coz the had AS or anything just coz i didnt like them and i think that a bullies worst fear is the person they are bullying would stick up for themselves or get loads of peopel to stick up for them, though i never experienced any of the people i bullied stick up for them selves or anyone else stick up for them

I was bullied at School, From the age of 11 Until I was 14, by a group of boys 2 years older than me, who thought it was funny to pick on me when my brothers werent with me, they never did it when my brothers where with me, they had this idea that i couldnt stick up for myself, because i was a girl, and that i needed my brothers protection. One day I caught one of them by himself and bust his nose, I also got my friend to take pictures so i had proof that i'd beat him, I then told him that if he didnt tell his mates to leave me alone Id tell them who give him a bust nose (that he'd been beat by a girl). He was that ashamed of himself, and worried about his friends finding out he actually started to stick up for me after that, Now hes married to my sister, and we are really good friends.

Hang on, you confused me. Are you saying that your ex-bully is now your brother-in-law?

Yes he's my brother in law and now I know him better he's quite nice, He is still abit of a pig sometimes, but now instead of saying ill tell his mates I beat him now i threaten to tell his five year old son, that his auntie beat his daddy. It works every time.

Bullies are out to get their jollies out of intimidation. The jollies can be spoiled very fast if there is a risk of actually getting hurt or feeling pain. Jihadists they aren't.

Counselors and teachers just want everyone to get along -- at least not visibly hurt each other too badly. If you tell them that you might defend yourself by stabbing him with a pen or pencil, they WILL take action. They can't take all pens & pencils away from you and they don't want a "stabbing" to take place on their watch! Punching, yes, but not a "stabbing".

Using a pen and pencil means holding one in each hand and waving them like wands. Feint toward his hands. Is the bully going to try stabbing you? No, he might still get poked. If he feints toward grabbing your hand or pencil, feint toward that hand with the other pencil.

When he realizes you mean business and he can't find a time when you are 'safe' to bully, he will leave you alone.

If it is a pair, run to a wall and back up to it. A corner is even better. Or jump over a bush, reverse and defend yourself over the bush. Start looking for a more defensible position.

A narrow place is good for defense from larger gangs -- if you can find it in time. Don't get grabbed by a gang member! Dispatch that one quickly.

Either way, tell a teacher you almost had to defend yourself by poking someone. If they start saying you are too dangerous to be in that school, point out that you are only defending yourself. Do they prefer bullies in this school?

Can you try online or distance education as an alternative?

After all bullying in my life, I would like some "real" education, and beeing sensitive as I am to bullying, I've never been able to be successful in school.

This one usually works for me (being the only white kid in a poor nearly all black neighborhood I need to use this a lot; racist-sounding, but true) make them think your crazy. I'm dead serious, talk to them about random stuff, like they say "I'm gonna kick your ass" be like "a dog bit my ass once, it was a beautiful german shepard." and invite them to go with you somewhere like for pizza, I usually invite them to tea b/c it confuses them.

If they call you a name say "I know you are, but what am I." after saying a thousand stupid thing ask them about a serious political issue. And most of all evade attacks and remain calm (if you just pretend that they don't want to hurt you that can help) and pepper spray sounds like a good idea, though I've never used the stuff.

That's no excuse. The kid who bullied me at school was dyslexic, and the teachers tried to make me feel guilty about this fact. When my mum asked for the bullying to stop the teachers brought out the dyslexia label again. A teacher told me that I wouldn't get bullied if i 'stopped being odd'. Yeah like I understand that. Basically, what I am saying is that there is NEVER an excuse for bullying. I am 18 now and in my childhood I suffered from OCD, Tourette syndrome and ADD, I was abused by my Dad, My granny died, we moved into a new house and I changed school. I didn't start bullying though. It seems as if the bullies with the 'problems' have had to go through a lot less than me.

Also, make sure you don't give up. I gave up and now I have just a B grade in Music, no job and I still live in care of my Mum.

Why not go to the police? This remedy is often overlooked, but what he is doing to you is illegal. Even if they can't make anything stick, a visit from a law officer might scare him straight : )

Never do this. It's blatant suicide - unless expelled, they will come back for you. If expelled, their friends will beat you so bad they inflict permanent damage. Your best shot is to fight back. Wait until they're seperated, mayhaps hold a sharp pencil reverse grip under your sleeve, and provoke an attack from one. When 'defending' yourself make sure to jam that pencil into his thigh, then pull the self defense "scared for my life" card and explain how you've been living in terror from these two for the past however long. Mind you, most bullies will respect someone who fights back and leave them alone.

With practice, you should be able to slide the pencil from your sleeve, thrust it into him, and pull back/sheath it in your sleeve without anyone ever noticing it at all. Make sure there are no witnesses. When the principle or whoever speaks to you, vehmently deny you ever used any weapon or stabbed him. Don't acknowledge he has a puncture wound until THEY bring it up, and then act puzzled and claim you have no idea how it got there. With no proof, there's nothing they can do. Only admit you swung a few fists.

You are an irresponsible moron for encouraging violence like this Ramsus. That kind of crap is never acceptable.

Jimbo, tell an adult, they will be able to advise you in the best ways to deal with the situation and offer protection. Tell them you want to remain anonymous if you're concerned about repercussions - but it is important that you get it out and take active and constructive steps towards dealing with this problem.

Yeh, I've told and told and told for three years. Nothing happened. Why the hell should I believe they'll sort it out now?