Three situations. Let's take a look.

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This is sort of a social skills/college life combo post. School will begin in about a month for many. Maybe we can help each other do well this coming year. I'm going to throw out a couple different scenarios and if you have a good and unique (you don't have to be the first one to have said it, but things like make eye contact, give other people a chance to talk so you aren't always talking about your aspie interest, etc. are things that everyone who has gone to an AS website knows) idea than please post. If someone has an idea and you think that you know how to improve on it, you can also comment about that. Let's brainstorm guys, let's refine each other's ideas, let's help each other to do well in life.

Situation 1: It's the first day of a college class. It is pretty large. You do not know anyone in the room. The professor hasn't entered the room yet. Their is a person on your left who is pretty quiet and you introduce yourself and then you ask him questions about his major and how his summer went. His responses are brief and it's not really going anywhere. The girl on your left is talking to some other girls next to her and the guy below her about a party that they had on saturday and how some of them had hangovers on sunday. The subject of their conversation later changes, but you don't know anything about the subject. What do you do?

Variation: You are in a small to medium size class and the people who knew each other are talking about just anything but everyone else is quiet. Again, the professor isn't in yet. What do you do?


Situation 2: It's move in day at the university dorms. You arrive not knowing anyone. Someone who has been there for a while and has already moved in offers to help bring the stuff from your car. You get to talking about where your from, what your major is, he introduces you to a couple of people on the way back and forth between your car and your room. People are generally okay with you, but you just met so there isn't a strong connection. He invites you to his room for a movie. You soon realize that you have little in common. You try to talk, but converstation seems forced. His girlfirend comes over and they talk and you feel out of place. Before this goes completely down hill and you never get invited back to his room again, what do you do to save this potential friendship?

Variation: You are bored and there aren't any classes. You into the dorms (without living there) to see if anyone is doing something and will let you hang out. How do you go about doing it when you don't live in that building?


Situation 3: You are falling behind in school because you just can't bring yourself to do the required work in class. How do you force yourself and how do you balance study time with fun?

Let's get started with the thinking so we can all have a good year.

Let's take things step by step.

Variation: You are in a small to medium size class and the people who knew each other are talking about just anything but everyone else is quiet. Again, the professor isn't in yet. What do you do?

Hmm. It's simple actually. Just study...

The idea with that one was to figure out how to better socialize. Although, studying would give you something to do so you aren't sitting around looking silly. I know that this is a long post with many situations but for those reading, if you just want to pick at one of them, that would be great.

Friendships are seldom made in huge classes. Try introducing yourself to another random person, or just wait for the professor to show up and focus on class.


Introduce yourself to one of the quiet people, or, if you're feeling especially confident, try to join the pre-established social group of the people who already know each other. Warning: this is difficult. It is far easier to become a part of a newly-forming social group than it is to gain admittance to an already established group.


Dead end, give it up. Try hanging out with some of the other people he introduced you to.


Too awkward, do not attempt in any circumstances.


Make a specific schedule for study time and stick to it. Failing that, forgo social activities for a time and become a hermit.

Guys I know that you can do this, let's try to get some additional suggestions and build upon what others have written as well. You don't have to tackle all of the situations if you don't have the time, but try to get at least one. The stats are currently 102 views to 2 posts (not counting my own). Let's try to increase the later.

Never mind... just take your time, yeah...