Just some general + other college tips Please

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I'm going to be moving into the dorms as a freshman in less than 20 days . I already have my room set up so its a private suite only share bathroom w/ one other person. I'd like some general tips about being an autie in college (anything you can think of to get through/enjoy yourself possibly) & three other questions that are more specific (just been bugging me lately). I have very very very little to no desire to have a social life (planning to limit it to a group meeting I already decided to join about disabilities). I want to get through college comfortably w/o nasty spill ups like I had in HS.

Question 1 (w/ explanation 1st): Avoid people all together?
I had a few friends in HS (1-5 who rotated every yr b/c people moved after I trusted them) and I had issues w/ panic attacks (myself & others). My friends tended to be emotionally unstable & perverted, or poor & emotionally stressed constantly due to home lives. I would not mind having friends like this again, but it can be semi-draining for me. I also had panic attacks when people didn't get my issues & discovered the hard way my sensitivity to touch...not good (last guy who found out still avoided me a yr later ). I would prefer not to have those kind of repeats. How do I do this & should I avoid people in general & approach know one ever, or a few people when I'm up to it on occasion.

Question 2: Plain/dull or Ugly better?
I don't want to be noticed, period. I have little/no sex drive (asexual or demisexual not sure/never been truly interested) & would only be able to safely have a strong friendship based on my issues. Would plain/dull or ugly features be best to deter people from seeing you as a prospective friend or more? How do know which you have?

Question 3: Avoid Run ins & Dye hair?
The school I am going to is where some people from my HS are going as well . I wish to refrain from seeing any of them again! If I do, would having dyed hair possibly make me more/less recognizable? (I have dirty blonde/light brown hair & naturally pale skin now & would only want to go darker/NO highlights or stay same & hope for best.)

Thanks for help & sorry post is so long!

At university I would not suggest avoiding all human contact, but there is nothing to stop you being a work hermit if you would rather read and study than go out and "play with the locals". As a university tutor I would suggest that you find a good balence between work and play.

"All work and no play makes jack a dull boy, but all play and no work makes jack fail his exams"



About "ugly features" keeping the boys at bay. That will not work, some young men have a very different idea of what is pretty. The chances that some lads will find you attractive no matter how you look.

Hmm...I dont think u should outright try to avoid people and have no connections. You dont have to have a social life, just having the connections helps being new to college. Such as knowing people in your class for study groups. Study groups can really help if your struggling. If your going to college far away from home, knowing people can help with getting around a new community. Its difficult to fair alone besides being a hermit can be lonely for most people. You might be contented with it. As for making the "right" friends, sorry cant give any advice in that area. And if you can: get into a quiet dorm. If your college has designated freshman dorms: that might be hard cause a lot of students go crazy there freshman year. I was in a party dorm my freshman year, it can be annoying for studying and sleeping when theres so much noise.

If your goal is to be an antisocial hermit, then if your college is close to home: then live at home. Plus you most likely have more control over the enviorenment. It saves money too.