Skipping Prom

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Did anyone else here skip their senior prom? I skipped it because I just felt like staying home. I didn't want to dress up and it might've been boring even though most of my friends went.

I went to mine but I spent most of the time standing in a corner... probably should have skipped it tbh

I didn't want to pay $50 to go. Plus I probably would have spent the night wondering why the corner of the room is so comfortable.

I was told repeatedly what a milestone it would be in my life - one of those 'coming of age' moments and if I skipped it I'd end up regretting it for the rest of my life.


That was 32 years ago. I'm not regretting it yet.

Looks like everyone is kind of in agreement with my view so far that prom is boring and no regrets.

Never went to a single dance in high school. Nada. I was even asked to go to prom and turned it down -- and she was pretty! In my heart I knew it would be a social disaster to attend a dance. One, I can't dance and two, what few friends I had never went either. Now that I see my daughter in her first year of High School having a blast going to dances, there is a tinge of regret. But just a tinge. It passes. I don't expect my 11-year old AS son to attend prom either but who knows? He does a mean robot.

I went to my senior prom and it was alright since I enjoyed myself in the end.

I was in high school in the late '60s and my school didn't have a prom any of the years I was there. Wouldn't have gone if there had been, I didn't start dating until grad. school.

My friends want me to go, and I do want to go in a pretty dress and get all dolled up, but my anxiety and depression have been ever increasing lately and I don't know if I'll be able to cope. It feels funny to go as well because I'm not technically a grade 12 and am not graduating, even if I've been in high school for 4 years. I'll probably have to fight to get to go, and it'll be such a bother...
I don't care that I wouldn't have a date, my friends would be with me and I don't think any of them are going out with somebody (one has a boyfriend but he doesn't want to go)

Guilty as charged.

I was so fixated on my new special interest that I wanted to do nothing other than being completely immersed in it. I did not want to go shopping for a dress - shopping is always a nightmare for me since it makes me very exhausted. Plus, I think spending nearly $100 for a dress and paying for the prom itself, just for one night, is not worth it. Plus the anxiety of being surrounded by all the people who have seen many of my Aspie moments, especially the really embarassing ones in the past. Too many bad memories.

No thanks. I'd rather avoid embarassing myself even further. It's best to avoid these social situations as much as possible around people who mostly judge me by my social skills and appearance.

I'm yet to have my FINAL prom (Year 13) and I'm definitely considering going to it, since it's the last time I'll see all my friends from school. However, I was invited to the previous year's by a friend and really enjoyed it! It's strange how dancing to thumping music can fill you with adrenaline, but exciting nonetheless! So I'll definitely go to the prom at the end of the year!

However, a couple of years ago I decided not to go to the Year 11 prom because there were far too many people and too many people at that time were immature and didn't know how to have a serious mindset. I also thought that it would be fairly boring, and from conversations about it with friends, it definitely was. I'm glad I didn't go to the Year 11 prom, I spent the evening playing Guitar Hero 3 instead .

Well I think a prom is basically a dance, and there is one for my year next year after our GCSEs and I can tell you now I wont be going...
Why?
a. Dancing is obligatory there.
b. There will be annoying music
c. Everyone else will be there
d. It involves dancing with someone... well that's never going to happen...
e. I would just be standing in the corner
f. Last time I went to a place with dancing, music, and everyone else I
literally would not have cared if everyone in the room was gunned down by some nutter,
or myself for that matter... It was a horrible experience...
g. I don't want to go!

I don't want to go because I think my classmates will use it as an excuse to pick on me even more, and why would I subject myself to that voluntarily?

This.

Okay, so I would never have asked a girl out. The "normal person"'s counterreply to this is ALways "go with friends then". Most of my actual "friends" in high school were one or two years younger than I was. And male. And considering the social implications of gender in the American high school prom, the result is clear: I would have had no friends at prom. Not a good idea.

In the real world, though, it seems your high school prom matters. To lots of people, it does represent everything it represents in the movies. The subject of high school prom has been brought up with exactly two people in college, both of whom were in honest disbelief about me not going. To them, it represented everything they worked up to in high school, it seems. I should note that everyone else I have met in college, I would assume, would have been equally indifferent as me.

I'm currently in my last year of high school, but I'm not sure if I'm going to go to the prom. Right now I'm leaning toward going, but financial matters are an obstruction. I'm already determined to buy a yearbook (since I'm on the yearbook staff anyway and I've been buying yearbooks every year since kindergarten), and that's going to cost $60. Add about another $60 just for a ticket and possibly $100 for a tuxedo, and I'm not sure if I could handle that.

I don't think I'll end up just standing in the corner if I go, since I have a lot of friends who are going. If anything, I'll probably be sitting down at a table all night with some of my friends, which doesn't sound too bad. I'm not even going to bother dancing, unless it's a slow dance and I have someone to dance with.

not going is no big deal