It's not fair!

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I'm having problems in school. You see, I was supposed to go off-campus for a job experience, and for weekly field trips, but because of 2 incidents that happened before Winter Break (I hit a student, and I broke a picture frame in my therapist's office), the teachers don't trust me being safe off-campus. So now I have to earn back their trust by doing an on-campus job for 6 weeks before I can go off-campus again. It's not fair! I've been out in public many times before, and I've never flipped out or anything like that! I freaking hate my school and my teachers!

It's a liability issue that you did bring on yourself. Keep busy the 6 weeks will go by quickly. If the pass behavior is beneath you then prove that it is. You'll be ok.

Agreed. I was tempted just to post, "Then don't hit a student or break your therapist's picture frame.", but that would be too vague. Even when stressed out beyond all belief, I would never hit a student or break any rules - especially not in public. I follow rules to the exact letter and stick by them - thus, I never swear in school. Ever. (EDIT: That was an example. I also never commit any violence in school or break any rules ever)

If there's one thing I've always hated (most likely because I cannot relate to it), it's Aspies or others with Autism that have done something drastic - such as throwing a brick at a "bully" or causing violence to other students out of anger. Mostly due to the fact that it portrays a bad image onto us as something that must be "cured", in the public eye. It gives them more reason to accuse us of wrongdoings and portray us as the "bad" ones.

I'll give you an example. There's this kid in my school that, like me, also has Aspergers. Unlike me, he is in C band and adjusted to having the teachers obey his every wish (either that, or he just tries to take advantage of his power in the Special Needs Department). If someone he doesn't like or is known to bad-mouth others goes to dine with our group, he'll make him feel as unwelcome as possible to the point of saying rather bluntly "You are not welcome here." and, on rare occasions, he may even turn against the whole group and proclaim that he hates us all for little to no reason.

Another lad, also Aspergers, I dislike because (once again) he tries to use his power - even against those that supply him that power. An example? He is disobedient to pretty much every teacher unless everyone is doing some form of work... Also, with the work, he'll often refuse to do it because "it's not relevant to what we were said to be doing the last few lessons ago" (granted, his year is experiencing problems with getting the correct work at the moment...). Still, although I like him as a person, I dislike his attitude and effort to work.

Needless to say, both of these people are failing academically because, quite honestly, they are breaking rules and failing to work. The first example kid, although I don't know him that well as a person, I'm trying to teach him about why he should obey the rules (in a way, I feel he's being manipulated by his friends - as he often tells jokes involving swearing) and am trying to find out more about him. He leaves lessons constantly using his "time-out card" given to him by the Special Needs Department due to obviously faked attempts of "I'm feeling sick" or "The classroom was too noisy and had too little work done" (Although the latter might be true, the former is used mostly with a fake accent that is easily noticeable).

Sounds fair enough to me. They are not kicking you out of school; you are being given a chance to redeem yourseelf, so I suggest making the most of it.

In a trial, you may get fewer years for not having a previous criminal record, but you can't argue that not having murdered anyone before entitles you to walk free...

I can somewhat relate to the OP, and I also understand the message behind every single reply to her. When I was in middle school I had some "acting out behaviors" that I'm not proud of. I would frequently get into physial fights or just have "outbursts." I had to learn how to respond differently in order to improve my circumstances. Although by college I was pretty mellow and had few problems compared to my middle school days, I did get into the habit of throwing a fit every time someone made noise in the dorm when I was trying to sleep. I never got physical or anything like that, but I would cry/yell/pound on doors. I think people with Asperger's have difficulty regulating their responses and behavior like this can be common for us. Ultimately, we have to learn other ways of responding otherwise we're not going to get anywhere.

To the OP... my stance is pretty much the same as everyone else's. Just do what you have to do, even though I understand it is sometimes difficult to manage your responses to situations.