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15 Mar 2010, 6:15 pm

I have noticed a pattern in my life that I would like to change. It has caused a number of negative consequences (I still get by, but I have lost many opportunities because of this).

My problem...I consentrate on things that I shouldn't when I need to be doing other things. The things that I spend time on are good in and of themselves, but not when they take away form my responsibilities. Even though I realize I have other things to do while I am off working on a "special project" or reading about one of my aspie interests, I don't get it done.

I am a student. You can probably see why this would be a problem (especially since I would like to do graduate level studies, but I am struggling to finish my bachelor's).

Do you or someone you know suffer from this problem? What do you recommend to fix it?



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17 Mar 2010, 12:14 am

SOMEONE PLEASE RESPOND.



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17 Mar 2010, 1:02 pm

plan your day, allocate time for finishing your work and also have some free time. if you have an everyday schedule it is easier to get yourself to finish the job.
good luck



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21 Mar 2010, 3:09 pm

It's really difficult, but I have tried to get myself into the habit of doing whatever it is I hate most first instead of leaving it until the last minute. It takes a lot of self-discipline, especially at first, but after a while it gets a little easier. Just don't think about it and jump right in--then you will spend less time and energy dreading it. If I absolutely can't concentrate on something because my brain is determined to think about other stuff (typically, whatever I'm obsessed with at the moment), then I give myself a set amount of time to do what I want first--a half hour (or however long) of playtime, then work. Or I try to find more interesting ways to do whatever it is I don't want to do--for example, if I'm supposed to study for a class and I don't feel like going over my notes, I will try to find something interesting about the topic and google it. That way I'm sort of learning what I am supposed to but it doesn't feel so mind-numbingly dull.

Also, I try to study more efficiently so I have more free time. There are plenty of online study skills tutorials out there that give helpful tips for that sort of thing, and some of them are quite helpful. I flunked out of college in my first semester, so when I went back I was determined not to make the same mistakes again. I utilized the people at the university study skills center and it made a big difference. Time management is very difficult for me, but I've gotten better at it over time--working to develop good habits is critical, and it will save you a lot of stress in the long run.