What Social Skills was I supposed to learn in school

Post Reply New Topic

I have some questions. What social skills was I supposed to learn in elementary school, middle school, and high school and college as well? I must've missed the boat here. Here are some of the things I learned.

1. Lying

2. Cheating on tests

3. Learning slang like "what's up my n***a."

4. Talking about stupid shows like I, Carly, or the next stupid schmuck on MTV or any other reality tv.

5. Farting

6. Burping

7. Being Original

8. Aspie Mama's website. This is a nice juicy one. I think this young aspergian lady learned some excellent social skills from her counselors and her peers. http://aspiemama.blogspot.com/2008/12/i ... -with.html

9. Calling a young lady "a b***h or a hoe"

10. Smoking Cigarettes

11. Smoking Marijuana

12. Here is my ultimate favorite: "What's up Shawty?"

Again, what social skills was I supposed to learn? NTs say I'm supposed to learn social skills in school and from my peers. Again, what was I supposed to learn from my peers?

Lol,

I learned pretty much the same...

I think the idea is that you're supposed to get diagnosed before you learn all those things! x

1. Lying

2. Cheating on tests

In early school years I learned that other people lie a lot, and that I can't trust known liars. In 5th grade a few students tried to get me in trouble by rewriting answers and then saying I misgraded their worksheets, which I figured out soon enough but had trouble explaining.

3. Learning slang like "what's up my n***a."

4. Talking about stupid shows like I, Carly, or the next stupid schmuck on MTV or any other reality tv.

Slang isn't too hard to understand. Other students would want to talk to me about different TV shows, but I didn't watch a lot of TV.

5. Farting

6. Burping

The key is farting and burping at the right times. Otherwise, avoid these.

7. Being Original

8. Aspie Mama's website. This is a nice juicy one. I think this young aspergian lady learned some excellent social skills from her counselors and her peers. http://aspiemama.blogspot.com/2008/12/i ... -with.html

9. Calling a young lady "a b***h or a hoe"

Why would you want to do that?

10. Smoking Cigarettes

I used to wonder whether I lacked a certain "coolness" because I didn't do this. Even so, I would have to weigh the supposed benefits against the costs, and it's not worth it. Nowadays people will at least not fault you if you don't do it.

11. Smoking Marijuana

Didn't do this in school and had no idea where someone would even get it. It's another filter to screen who's in and who's out.

12. Here is my ultimate favorite: "What's up Shawty?"

These are in fact valuable social skills which you will use every day for the rest of your life, if you expect to be accepted and get along in the workplace.

These skills will gain you social acceptance, but only in certain circles. The downside is the people in these circles will never be able to assist you in achieving material success or wide social respect. The upside is, they will tend to be the loyalist of friends when the rest of the world treats you like dirt.

WTF? You learned this in a public school system? You must have misunderstood, this quality is highly discouraged among the NT populace. In fact, it will typically get you persecuted, harassed, fired and (depending on your local statutes) possibly arrested and/or executed. Originality is a grenade. When you need it, it can be very useful, but only in that moment - if you use it prematurely or hesitate even slightly, you're screwed. Best avoid it.

As for the slang phrases, ignore those. Within the first decade after you graduate, they'll all be obsolete and using them will only get you laughed at. As you get older, the phrases will date you and the cute young women who hear you use them, won't.

Last edited by Willard on 23 Mar 2010, 5:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

OMG you just made me LOL...

You're right though... Anything out of the ordinary will be readily persecuted by NTs!

Hehe true.


But on the other hand, if you doggedly stick with the slang phrases (and they stick whether you want them to or not), they will go from "nobody says that anymore!" to "I haven't heard that in years" to retro to quaint to downright charming. I love hearing older people default to the slang they learned in highschool in the late 40's. Hopefully somebody some yet-unborn person will be equally charmed by my quaint early 80's skateboard slang. Give it another 50 years and somebody will be charmed hearing elderly people say "shawty", just like they've done since 2005.

I have a good friend who still says "groovy" all the time. I wore Levi's Big Bell jeans until they stopped making them in the late 80s.

Did you know most of the 'Gangsta' slang phrases (like shawty) that have emerged in common parlance in the past couple decades actually date back to the black jazz musicians of the 20s through the 40s?

Keep wearing those fashions long enough, they're bound to come back in style.

The trouble is with NTs is that it's all so subtle. It's not even that one phrase is wrong with all people...

It's more the case that we kinda have to learn to mirror the people who we're with so that we don't use expressions that are outside their comfort zone...

It's quite complex but I don't think expressions are as set in stone as we might like to assume, grr!

Well many of this seemingly selfdestructive behaviors full fill the same purpose as the feathers of a peacock. By showing that you can get along even with this destructive behaviors you show how good you realy are at what you do, not to mention factors in puberty like initiation rites in peer groups and rebelling against your parents to become independent person.

Smoking maybe unhealthy but smoking as reciprocative borowing of smokes is a great social ritual and an easy way to get in to small talk with people. As an Aspie you tend to marginalise this behaviors as the stupid thinks NTs do, cause NTs behaving stupid and illogical is what makes them NT.

1. Lying - Sad but true this is the #1 skill for the NT world.

2. Cheating on tests - I've returned to school and at least at the college level this is very difficult to do which is good.

3. Learning slang like "what's up my n***a." - Why anybody would us that word is beyond me. I very rarely use slang.

4. Talking about stupid shows like I, Carly, or the next stupid schmuck on MTV or any other reality tv. - Sad but true.

5. Farting, Burping - Only in private.

7. Being Original - Must be a mistake here. Being original is the kiss of death with NT's.

8. Aspie Mama's website. This is a nice juicy one. I think this young aspergian lady learned some excellent social skills from her counselors and her peers. http://aspiemama.blogspot.com/2008/12/i ... -with.html - Hmmmmm. A teenager with what was once considered healthy interests is now considered broken. We are doomed. I guess engaging in activities that would lead to a successful career as a veterinarian must be nipped in the bud as soon as possible.

9. Calling a young lady "a b***h or a hoe" - I would never do that even to a woman I don't like. This is weird because I recently had a class project with a very attractive NT young lady and she commented on the fact that I don't swear and am always polite. I told her that I rarely swear and never in the presence of a lady. She really didn't know how to react to that. I explained to her that is not how I was brought up and that I like to hold myself to the highest standard possible in all aspects of my life. The project involved getting up in front of the class and she was a nervous wreck about it. I was very positive and tried to build up her confidence. She did well and I complimented her about that also. She didn't know how to react to that either. I can't tell if she likes me or thinks I'm a creepy stalker now.

10. Smoking Cigarettes, Smoking Marijuana - Never done either myself but people who do will be your most loyal friends oddly enough.

12. Here is my ultimate favorite: "What's up Shawty?" - What is that?

Last edited by Metal_Man on 23 Mar 2010, 8:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Think about it. It's a paradox. Everyone is trying to be original these days and stand out while being in their cliches. Everyone is trying to be so original that they end up becoming unoriginal. In addition, people are trying to have their own original philosophy and originality is the new buzz word. I ask, since everyone is trying to be original why can't I be original myself by being unoriginal?

I guess I have a twisted sense of humor about things.

Last edited by cubedemon6073 on 29 Mar 2010, 10:55 am, edited 1 time in total.

ROTFL ^^^^^I *love* this response! And it is so true! Hilarious......