I have an IEP meeting Friday..

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For those who are unaware, that is an Individualized Education Plan... It currently includes accomodations like 50% extra time for homework and classwork, the right to opt out of group work, preferential seating, and some other thing I cannot remember. It also includes goals that are a bit irrelevant such as writing assignments in an agenda book and so on. Boring. Another goal is for me to improve my peer mediation skills, as measured by a sixty year old counselor that I relate to rather well . This big meeting that is usually about an hour and a half or two hours long is next friday, and my parents, several of my teachers, my counselor, the speech pathologist (with some kind of pathological personality issue, by the way,) the Assistant Principal in Charge of Some Things, and an "academic counselor" (which every student at my school has.) Anyway, it is an awful thing, and I can never resist the urge to laugh while they are talking about me. Does anyone else have an IEP or a similar arrangement? What do you do in meetings? Once I accidentally flung a small rubber watermelon at my counselor's knee under the table It was pretty funny though

I have an IEP, which will soon be withdrawn because those who know me and are involved with me feel I no longer need it. My targets were to remain on task in lessons and to engage more in group work. The Special Educational Needs Co-Ordinator (I'm glad she's gone now, but her replacement is a total prick) always spoke to me in a patronising tone, and she even sellotaped my IEP targets in the front of my school planner, which I hated, because other kids would take my planner without asking me and start reading it, see my IEP targets, then ask me,
"What's wrong with you, why have you got those?", etc.
I always hated the meetings anyway, and haven't attended one since I was 14. The last time I went to one, there was a big fat woman there who I didn't know, and I found her very patronising. It always felt like staff at the meetings were putting words in my mouth.

I've never had a Special Education Resource Specialist who did not speak in a patronizing manner. (Which was frustrating because they were never quite as observant or thoughtful as I would prefer.) Some of my teachers have no idea why I have an IEP yet others seem to think I need more help The lack of a consensus can most likely be attributed to my uneven performance in classes. (I get A's in advanced placement classes and occasionally fail regular classes go figure.) The speech pathologist is one of the worst people I've had to work with in the school system. Her goal for me is to "town down my formal speech" (a euphemistic phrase for "dumbing down my conversational language") because it will "increase laughter, gossip, and staring" and that I will "never ever need to use big words in life." I'm determined to avoid learning anything from her

Same here. I'm of the opinion that, just because they know about AS, that alone doesn't mean they know me as an individual. The Educational Psychologist is too eccentric and patronising for my liking. She speaks slowly to me and I find she treats me based on some of the stereotypes she knows about AS. I try not to take it personally, but it can get on my nerves after a while.



In my opinion, that's like her saying it's not okay for you to be yourself - now I could be wrong here, but what's wrong with being able to take part in an intelligent conversation? I personally don't blame you for not wanting to learn anything from her.

ive never had an IEP but i do have a 504. the 504 doesent do much exept give me extra help on large tests and lets me use a laptop to take notes. actualy i went to a meeting last week for them to change it to and IEP. its not such a bad thing, it makes it a little bit easy to cope with school.

Yeah I have an IEP type thing. I don't like those sorts of meetings either. I mean you go there and explain what you want them to do and they act like they will help and do that but then completely disregard what you've said once the meeting is over and nothing happens...Plus some of the officials who attend are fools. I don't go to those meetings now unless I have to. I remember a few years ago when I was out of school and we went to a meeting as part of the process of going back to school and one of the women there was going on about me not getting enough social interaction by doing what we agreed (reduced timetable etc). How stupid is she? I think it's a bit more important that I complete my qualifications than interact with a bunch of morons.

i used to see a speech pathologist when i was around 5-6 years old, but eventually stopped seeing her because my parents noticed what a nasty btch she was.

you are not the only ones who feel like you were patronized by teachers. before i moved before 3rd grade, i was stuck in a place where most, yet fortunately not all, of my teachers hated me. one of them used to raise her voice at me all the time and another even throttled me because i was not listening to her.

if i was not so small and vulnerable then, i would have *completely lost it* and kicked them into the next time zone.

is it any wonder why i now distrust authority so much, and people in general?

My accomodations include one that provides for the division of large assignments into smaller tasks. Which helps.... My IEP is mostly a result of developmental discrepancies (way above age-level vocabulary with below age-level pragmatic speech and blah blah blah)
I don't really take part in any self-advocacy so the meetings are mostly a congress of old folk suggesting strange things.
By the way petitesouris I had a kindergarten teacher who always tapped my shoulder when I was off task (it was frequent.) It used to drive my little mind into quite a rage It was really annoying though. I hated being touched (or startled, for that matter )