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21 Apr 2010, 6:44 pm

I got stuck sitting next to the campus creeper today at dinner b/c he was with a friend of mine & their wasn't anywhere else to sit today... UGH (':eew:'). I've noticed that luckily, b/c I'm not too pretty & obviously uninterested in guys, when another prettier girl is around he leaves me alone :D (this is why I (':heart:') being UNATTRACTIVE :D). If a guy has stopped talking to you or coming near you for a few weeks, is it safe to assume he is going to leave you alone for good? (I have poor judgement in this area & would rather not risk having a friend jump in & talking to this guy b/c a few (all male) have offered.)


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21 Apr 2010, 7:59 pm

Peko wrote:
I got stuck sitting next to the campus creeper today at dinner b/c he was with a friend of mine & their wasn't anywhere else to sit today... UGH (':eew:'). I've noticed that luckily, b/c I'm not too pretty & obviously uninterested in guys, when another prettier girl is around he leaves me alone :D (this is why I (':heart:') being UNATTRACTIVE :D). If a guy has stopped talking to you or coming near you for a few weeks, is it safe to assume he is going to leave you alone for good? (I have poor judgement in this area & would rather not risk having a friend jump in & talking to this guy b/c a few (all male) have offered.)


It depends on the guy and the reason/s that he approached you before this. My Mum dumped this guy she was dating and he asked her to get back with him each time he saw her for about a year and a half (she dumped him after realising he was a very not nice person who was very selfish). So with the possible reason and context I may have a better idea about if he's stopped for good.



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21 Apr 2010, 9:27 pm

He basically watches/talks to anything female (& is obvious to the point its disturbing). Short story he went from saying hi- trying to hold conversations-trying to sit real close to me & watching me eat...-just talking-back to just hi-now ignoring me. He's just creepy & likes to talk too & watch any girl. But he only went with me for awhile & always ignores me if 1 or 2 other friends (who I'm sure are prettier than I am) are around.

p.s. The fact I catch him watching me & my friends means he's VERY OBVIOUS b/c I'm extremely oblivious. Also, him talking is more awkward than all except maybe 1 specific aspie I've met. Me catching onto anything like this is bad.


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23 Apr 2010, 8:16 am

If that's the case, he may start talking to/annoying you again. Why not just tell him to buzz off if he bothers you again?

About you being pretty or not, I'd say that has little to do with his talking to you or not. I think that he realises you're not interested in him (because your reactions are probably more obvious) and your female friends seem easier to "get" because their vibes are subtle.

If I'm understanding you correctly, this guy may not understand subtle at all so when he's talking to your female friends he probably doesn't realise they're being polite.