Daydreamer who did very well in school?

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Throughout school, I was a routine daydreamer. My earliest memory of daydreaming a lot was in the second grade. The teacher pointed it out and said she was going to talk with my parents about it.

Rather than worrying about the incident, I thought, "Hey, that's great! The teacher wants to talk to Dad and Mom. My parents will be proud of me for getting special attention!" Yes, I was clueless about the context and the social implications of that request. Nevertheless, I just went back to daydreaming.

During those days, my daydreaming was rather obsessed about constructing the "perfect" house where my family and I could live. Nearly every day in class, I would escape to my private inner world of planning out how all the rooms would look, how they would connect to one another, and all the other details.

My daydreaming continued through elementary and high school, then on into college and law school. My mind would just wander to faraway places, relive the past, or fantasize about the future. Even as an adult, when I attend classes, I tend to daydream no matter how interesting the subject matter is.

Here's the weird part. Despite all my daydreaming, I always got very good grades in school. Even with my chronic distraction, I somehow managed to have the correct answers whenever a teacher called on me.

It seems strange. Now that I am learning about Asperger's syndrome, I am developing a paradigm in which to understand these experiences a little better, but the phenomenon still confuses me. It strikes me as especially odd because I need a very quiet environment if I am to study something by reading. I am not one of the people who can "multitask": I can't listen to someone talk while I read or write about something different simultaneously. My mind basically shuts down when I try to do that.

Have any of you ever experienced anything like what I'm describing?

Thanks!

I have always been a daydreamer, too. But I don't recall that it would somehow influence with my attention when the subject was interesting. I just liked the time when no one was around and I could sit and go away into my inner world. I used to daydream about living in exotic countries; I daydream a lot about my future and I can say that all my dreams are coming true. I think daydreaming might be good. It means you know what you want. I heard an advice, 'decide what you want and go after it'. Most people, however, don't know what they want and so they are passive all their lives.

I have been a daydreamer as well, and I did exceptionally well in school. I was the kid who never turned in a homework assignment, therefore placing me in the 'failing' category when it came to exams, but I aced any and all exams, quizzes, tests, etc. So I fell into a C average, overall.

I have to disagree that non-daydreamers are passive. I am passive to a fault, but not because I don't know what I want... I fear offending people or going against their wants and needs. I bend to everyone else's requests, bypassing my own. I use my daydreams to escape my reality, however. It is a nice escape.

There are doers, and there are dreamers. There are those that these abilities come naturally for, and there are those that choose to practice one above the other. Am I making any sense? For example, I am a doer. I make sure things are done effectively, without question, to the other person's liking. But deep down, I dream of what I want and how I would want it to be done. All I have are my dreams, because someone somewhere always objects, and this makes me feel like the non-compliant jerk, unless I give what they want. I could easily attain all that I want if I wasn't so considerate and fearful, I suppose...

I was very material and almost perfect at school, I am a quite lazy daydreamer nowdays

being daydreamer means you know what you want, but it doesn't neccessarly mean that you are doer, too. like you say, you want but you fear. and also, knowing what to want also doesn't require daydreaming. so I actually didn't say that non-dreamers are pasive.
you shouldn't always bend to everyone else's requests, though. in many ways I am like that too, but only if I have no needs. I don't care to what restaurant to go, so I just bend to someone else's want. but when someone else wants to go to movies and I feel like going to swimming pool, then I just go swimming and send the other person to the movies. during the act of swimming or watching a film, we are not together anyway.

I think you can daydream in school and do well as long as you do a LOT of studying to make up for it, that's how I am in school anyways.

I used to daydream a lot when I was in school, and i didn't even study afterwards to get myself back in track I just did well in all the subjects which I was kind of surprised at. In the final years of secondary school I did buck my ideas up a bit and listen to the teachers...though it was usually lessons i enjoyed but i still daydreamed a lot. I used to draw comic books...especially in art which I hated (technically i was still doing art.. ). But i got good grades in nearly all my subjects Cs and Bs mostly. the one I'm really dissapointed in was Media which i daydreamed a lot in and i got a D, which kind of shows that daydreaming isn't always a good idea...

I usually daydream in maths mainly because i haven't got a good teacher there and when i do tune back into reality i notice that i've missed half the lesson.
I don't just daydream in school though i usually daydream alot to music at home. I even daydream when someone is speaking to me which i know is rude but i don't always mean it.

I also still manage to get good grades but that's probably because i only daydream in a couple of lessons and i do alot of work at home.

I am a daydreamer too (lol), grades wise, I usually get A's, and some B's and C's. But I am aiming for straight A's or even all A's for my 4-year college transferrable units.

I daydreamed a lot in school, but it had no overall effect on my performance. My getting bad grades was due to my laziness. I did make good grades most of the time, but there were times when I failed, or almost failed, some classes.

I daydreamed and I got good grades. But not doing SATs and ACTs are really detrimental to my chances of being admitted to an American college (e.g Michigan/Penn State) --- which I only wanted to go to.

Every single school report I have ever had is full of lines like "Always looks out of the window and never pays attention, but always knows the answer if you ask him". Some of my only positive memories of school are when I was daydreaming.

Thats me...just look at my screen name. =)