Should college be fun?

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Dad has this view I didn't take college seriously and just saw it as fun. I said oh and went back in the house (since he's a broken record and I've heard this before) I am conflicted on my return to college with my parents having this you need to grow up/mature behavior view. If you don't you'll mess up again etc. I think I took class seriously! Ask Conundrum! I've sent her tons of ideas and I've looked into and printed what's needed for the Bachelors in Psychology and the AA degree at the local college. I think it's sad you can't smile and laugh and have fun and ACT like you are having a good time in school? I'm lost and confused. I want to be how I was 5 years ago (outside of the suspsension issue) I feel I was serious and saw college as a fun joyful thing. (As I've told conundrum perhaps tone it down a little since others might not be so enthusiastic about learning) otherwise I think seeing college as fun is a great mind set to have. What do you think?

College is definitely meant to be fun. In fact, that's one of the best things about college/university for many students. However, you must also keep in mind that the main aim of college is to get the best degree you can. Therefore, you should have as much fun as you can, so long as it doesn't negatively impact your studies.

I hope so, as I start in a week and a half.

I think your parents sound like the kind of people that need to realise that you don't live their lives for them. Plus, I bet this would be easier for you if you were emotionaly validated, right?

There's no reason not to have fun. However, if you flunked out the first time, you need to understand exactly what went wrong, so that you can fix it.

Do you know exactly what went wrong the first time around?

I think sometimes people read certain kinds of behaviors and assume it means things it doesn't. I.e. there was someone (autistic) I used to know who had a really "childlike/adolescent" personality, but took her studies very seriously, and did well in college. I think in NT-land that sort of personal "immature" behavior is assumed to reflect immaturity in all areas, such as taking responsibilities seriously.

I think there are many lessons to learn in college.

How to "balance" your life is one of them. You can get As in class and have fun....it's a matter of prioritizing things and managing your time.