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20 Jan 2005, 5:03 pm

At lunch I would go to my table and sit there, eating lunch at school. These kids at a nearby table start staring at me and doing other things that annoy me and make me uncomfortable. I have talked to a teacher about it, but what can I say/do to these people during my lunch break? I have resorted to hanging out in the media center but that gets kind of boring. Any comments or suggestions would be accepted.

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20 Jan 2005, 5:30 pm

that's such a difficult situation, vincent, and horrible for you.

as a teacher, i know that it's nigh on impossible for teachers/staff to stop bullying like this. and it IS bullying the only thing i can say is that bullies have the lowest of self esteem, and so pick on others they perceive as even weaker than they are to make themselves feel better. remember that, as you may then get the psychological edge, which they'll pick up, subconsciously. and send out confidence in yourself - it doesn't have to be "loud" confidence, as "quiet" confidence is better - don't look or act like a victim.

the pack mentality is scary, and girls are just as bad if not worse.

i really do feel for you, vincent. hope this is some help, and apologies if it's not.



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20 Jan 2005, 6:47 pm

I usually stay quiet because I should not get into an argument because I am not involved.


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20 Jan 2005, 7:49 pm

Maybe you could do something they wouldn't expect. On the Jane Pauley special about AS, one of the doctors told a story of a kid who managed to make friends with a his nemesis who was harrasing him at lunch by learning how to engage in NT style conversation.

If there's no chance of them trying to beat you up, maybe you could go up to them at lunch and sit down with them and engage them in conversation...

Just a thought.


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20 Jan 2005, 8:23 pm

interesting idea scoots... but I'm not too interested in making friends with this guy, I just want to make peace.



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16 Feb 2005, 6:51 pm

I sympathize, I put up with so much crap from everyone everyday
I avoid the mall because of these people it sux :x


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17 Feb 2005, 2:18 pm

i if i am in a mall i will just insult these spoiled brats :twisted:



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18 Feb 2005, 2:39 am

macvincent, have you ever tried just asking what his problem is? I think that is what I would do. You might not want to say it the way just I worded it though, because then they'll think you're rude.



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08 Mar 2005, 9:08 am

When I was in Grade 12, there were some Grade 8 Students who came to the Learning Centre for some extra help, like I did through High School. The thing is that they thought they were so high above everybody else, there that they were calling the rest of us Handicaps and ret*ds. A fellow Grade 12 Student decided to get one of them back for putting everybody down. She drank two thirds of a can of Pepsi, filled one third with Water, and one third with Elmer's Glue. She stirred it with a dried-out marker, and she gave it to one of our Grade 8 Classmates to drink. The boy gave it to another Grade 8 boy, who also happened to come into the Learning Centre, and he drank the whole can. We all started laughing, and we couldn't stop.



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21 Aug 2006, 7:27 pm

I've had people bully me in middle school; I somehow gathered up my courage and told them to leave me alone, but it worked for only a little while. You could try to ignore them, or if you have any friends, you could tell them about it. I've usually stayed quiet, but I don't know if it helped at all.