How to prevent rumors?

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Just what the title says: Suggestions appreciated

Can't prevent rumors.

Live and speak assuming everything you do and say may be reported, repeated, described and specualted upon. Also understand that your doings aren't particularly fascinating to others, so rumors are unlikely.

depends what it is, I found that if someone asks you if its true and you explain it even if it isn't true they will stop it and may tell their friends what actually happened.

depends what it is, I found that if someone asks you if its true and you explain it even if it isn't true they will stop it and may tell their friends what actually happened.

Become socially invisible.

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That's the only way.

I was way too trusting when I got to grad school, everyone was new and didn't give a s**t at the start, but how quickly things change...

I had a ph.d student who was my assistantship supervisor, she didn't associate with anyone I know period and wouldn't know one way or another, but somehow she came at me one day out of nowhere suggesting sideways that I was a big time pothead. I admittedly smoke pot every once in a while (for reference, the last time was like 4 months ago) but wouldn't do it in front of people I didn't at least somewhat trust, and I am definitely not a stoner. No clue where this crap came from, and no clue how deep into the program this "information" has filtered.

It could be as simple as people in the midwest stereotyping me, I've met people out here where the first question was "Oh you're from Oregon, you must smoke a lot of dope huh"

Either way, it's people making assumptions, people making s**t up, or people you "trust" going behind your back on a level that is at best speculative and at worst malicious.

That was not the only catalyst, but I've learned, and the # of people in my program I will associate with beyond a passing superficial level has been reduced from 20+ down to 4.

For all I know, even 4 may be too many.

Never do or say anything that can be written down or recorded in any way.

You can't. But most people have enough cop on to take them with a pinch of salt. Be pleasant and polite and most people will be the same back.

The only way to prevent rumors is to give people something real to talk about. All the other ways fail sooner or later. People love to talk.

If you think you know who started the rumor about you start one of them. The trick is you got to start onr that has a little bit of truth to it so people will believe it.