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DoniiMann
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23 Jul 2011, 1:51 am

I have a wife and three kids aged 6, 4, and 1.5.

The 4yo especially seems to all of a sudden need attention when I settle down with a book. Not a critical situation now as I'm not in formal study, but I am looking into courses, and I'm becoming aware of the family dimension to such an endeavor.

I could study when the kids are in bed, but that doesn't leave much time for study, plus that's the time when it's just me and my infinitely better half.

Seems everyone needs attention. Being AS, I don't give them a huge amount of direct quality attention as it is, but it sure becomes more noticeable when I try to get quality time with five hundred paper pages and two cardboard covers.

Any students have to deal with the family dimension? How do you manage?


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23 Jul 2011, 7:16 am

Oh, gosh, yes.

Try to get a moment for yourself and everything turns into pandemonium.

Family life was not designed with Aspie needs in mind.

If I ever find a workable solution to the problem I'll pass it on.



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23 Jul 2011, 12:01 pm

I don't have kids of my own, so I am sure it is not the same for me. My niece and nephew (both quite needy and a bit annoying sometimes) live with us as foster children. They can be quite loud, and they need a lot of attention. If I have something I need to get done, I just stay on campus for a couple extra hours where I can work in silence before heading home.


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23 Jul 2011, 12:22 pm

This is why dog is man's best friend.


Nothing beats a dog to keep young kids entertained & burn off their energy.



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23 Jul 2011, 5:59 pm

Thanks. Good advice all round.

Think I'll check out that add for a dog I saw on sale: "Rottweiler for sale. Not fussy, will eat anything. Loves children."


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23 Jul 2011, 6:46 pm

Err... rotweilers are not really good choice pets due to their aggressive nature.

Boxers and beagles are high energy, very loyal dog that are great with kids :)



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23 Jul 2011, 7:15 pm

I know. It's a joke add. Will eat anything. Loves children :D = cure for attention seeking kids.


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25 Jul 2011, 3:32 pm

True. But then.. you're next on the menu. That could be a problem :P



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26 Jul 2011, 12:56 am

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27 Jul 2011, 7:47 am

Dantac wrote:
Err... rotweilers are not really good choice pets due to their aggressive nature.


Eh hem...

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A 2008 study surveying breed club members found that while Rottweilers were average in aggressiveness (bites or bite attempts) towards owners and other dogs, it indicated they tend to be more aggressive than average towards strangers. This aggression appears unrelated to the fear of the dog, but is correlated with watchdog and territorial instincts.


Eh hem....

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According to the FCI Standard, the Rottweiler is good-natured, placid in basic disposition, very devoted, obedient, biddable and eager to work. Their appearance is natural and rustic, their behaviour self-assured, steady and fearless. They react to their surroundings with great alertness. The American Kennel Club says it is basically a calm, confident and courageous dog with a self-assured aloofness that does not lend itself to immediate and indiscriminate friendships. A Rottweiler is self-confident and responds quietly and with a wait-and-see attitude to influences in its environment. It has an inherent desire to protect home and family, and is an intelligent dog of extreme hardness and adaptability with a strong willingness to work, making them especially suited as a companion, guardian and general all-purpose dog.


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The only reason some rottweilers may be more aggressive is because breeders breed aggression into some of the liters. Same thing with Pitbulls.

Pitbulls use to be the family dog. A family pet. Till dog fighters got a handle on things.



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29 Jul 2011, 10:20 am

Negotiate a time. A coupe times. A space after the young are in bed, or before they get up, lunchtime, whatever.

Needs to be a time of day or night when your brain functions.

That is your time, quiet room door closed, call me if the red phne from Moscow rings or the Martians ;land.

Set up parallel times when your wife can get some safe time.