Rumors Got Me Down

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A while ago, my friend Liz asked out my friend Sam to a girl's choice dance at school. He may be on the autism spectrum, based on his description of himself [especially on why he hates being touched]. He had repeatedly brought up that he didn't want to go out with anyone before she asked him out. When she finally asked him, he said no, partly because he had a band concert on the same night. She continued to ask him, or ask him 'why not' every day, and he started getting pissed off.

Yesterday, we heard from some guy who sits at our table that Sam was dating Liz's friend.

Considering Sam repeatedly insisted that he didn't want a girlfriend, I asked him what that was about. He said Liz's friend [Mary] asked if he wanted Liz to stop asking him out, and then Mary spread the rumor.

I don't know if I should play along, because honestly I'm not sure if it was Sam's idea in the first place. My first instinct is to verbally smack Mary for spreading rumors again [because she spread a rumor that I was dating a guy I had absolutely no romantic interest in].

On one hand, I know Sam better and prefer his company. On the other hand, I don't like the lying. I don't know if I should tell Liz what he said, or if I should keep it to myself.

Get hobbies and share them with meaningful people. Yes, it can be very stressful and painful when you somehow find yourself mixed up with petty, empty headed people. No matter how hard we try and how successful we have been in the past at not surrounding ourselves with such, we are all prone to getting coaxed into a relationship we find out in the future was conned and meaningless at least a time or two in our lives. For instance, right now I am going through feelings of being foolish and duped in the process of removing a person from my life who turned out to be a user and a con who further values those characteristics in himselves and others that I don't and cannot respect. I didn't know this bc he presented himself as a different person when we first met. Either way, the truth is out now and I'm coping with my own foolishness of having been duped and lied to. Neverthless, you can and you will overcome if you want to become a better person with more meaningful interests/concerns. I guess when it becomes more indicative of your OWN personality is when you choose for it to be long term after finding out these types of things or they become the regular types of people you choose to be in your life.

hahahahaha ok.

I say set the record straight with Mary and tell her to get over herself. Rumor-spreaders are often insecure attention-seekers anyways, and what better way to get attention than to say someone who was having troubles being asked out and bothered by your friend is now dating you, the friend of the pain in the arse?