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jamieevren1210
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17 Jan 2012, 9:39 am

Does this happen to you as a student or kid?
The few times I tell an adult or someone else about my Asperger's, they end up talking to me in that weird, soft, poor kid tone. Is it my imagination or do they really think I am...dysfunctional and ret*d?
Why do they do that? I mean, it's just a state of mind?


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17 Jan 2012, 9:48 am

Some often do this to me even though I don't tell them about any of my problems at all.



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17 Jan 2012, 9:50 am

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17 Jan 2012, 10:01 am

They are patronising you out of a misplaced notion that they should be feeling sorry for you. Ironically, in their world they feel as though they're empathising or sympathising.

People with other syndromes get this reaction a lot, too.


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17 Jan 2012, 11:55 am

Yeah, they do. That's why I don't tell anyone about my AS or ADHD.



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17 Jan 2012, 12:50 pm

jamieevren1210 wrote:
Does this happen to you as a student or kid?
The few times I tell an adult or someone else about my Asperger's, they end up talking to me in that weird, soft, poor kid tone. Is it my imagination or do they really think I am...dysfunctional and ret*d?
Why do they do that? I mean, it's just a state of mind?


Turn the tables. I usually find myself addressing the less intelligent normals in that condescending, patronizing tone:) I've found that most of them are a day late and a dollar short.