Anyone forced to drop out of high school b/c of bullying?

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How did it begun?
What was the harassment like?
What incident had made you said "I had enough" or forced you out of school?
Did you tried telling your teacher or administration to resolve the problem?
What did you do after you drop out and before you resume your education?
What did you do to continue your education? (Community college, unschooling, home school (home education), GED)
(If you got a GED) What did you do after your GED?

I wasn't forced out of school. The bullying stopped when I finally snapped and stomped someone. After that, all I had to do was threaten. I'm not proud of this, of resorting/devolving to violence, but honestly I wish I'd done it years before. That, and I wish I'd realized that 99% of those who talk big can't back it up and will run like little girls if you go all sideways on them.

NOTE: I only actually was in two "fights" (both people engaging in a physical altercation - I don't count the zillion times I was shoved into walls or lockers, just walking down the hall, or threatened, or harassed, or lied about, etc - for a LONG time, I never retaliated) - and the first one, I was struck first. The second time, I just wanted it over with.

What really pissed me off was, it was never just ONE girl who threatened me. It was always a PACK of them.

And the "reasoning" behind why I kept finding myself the target were myriad: I "talked funny," I stared at people too much, I gave them "dirty looks" (without ever intending to, I swear), or they would just blatantly make things up out of thin air ("I heard you called me a ____!") It really didn't seem to matter why anymore, once they'd targeted me and saw I wouldn't fight back. The school never intervened, and my parents just said, "Ignore them and they'll stop eventually." I did, but they didn't. Then my parents suggested perhaps I really was doing something to justify what was happening to me.

So pretty much I had no choice but to finally fight back. I'm just glad I didn't seriously hurt anyone - I was always afraid that if I did "let go" and fight someone, I might lose it and accidentally kill them. Seriously. I was _very_ angry, from about 6th grade to my junior year of high school. It seemed SO unfair. I wasn't mean, I didn't intentionally bother or antagonize anyone. I can see I was probably annoying sometimes, but that really didn't seem to justify what was done to me - even by BOYS.

I hope everyone here who dropped out will return to complete their educations, one way or another. Good luck to all of you.

I don't know where to begin... there was a lot, beginning in Kindergarden all the way thru college. I could write an entire book on it, but here's the highly condensed version.

I was hit in the head and beaten in Kindergarden by teachers twice. This was solved by moving from the big city to way out in the country, where things were pretty cool until we move again when I was in 5th grade.

From 5th grade to 8th, I was continuously harrassed and bullied by classmates. I went to the principal once, which was no help. After that, I just resorted to violence, and would simply punch them in the face. In class, the cafeteria, whereever, didn't matter. I never got expelled, there were always witnesses that stuck up for me. Plus, the school's administration knew that my test scores were off the charts, and that I was 'special' or 'gifted' in some way and would be the object of some harrassment. Instead of being expelled, I was promoted a grade. This angered some kids even more, and the harrassment continued, and me kicking their butts in front of 200 kids in the lunchroom continued at least once more.

By the time I was in 9th grade and high school, I earned a reputation of someone not to be messed with. Everything was cool until my senior year when my instructor, of all people, started harrassing me in front of the other students. Looong story. This ended by me cussing him out and throwing a chair at him. This time I was suspended for 10 days. This decision by the school board, after the investigation, was as close to admitting guilt on the part of the instructor as they'd get. By not expelling me, they at least conceded there was wrongdoing on the part of the teacher, but said I should have gone to administration to file a complaint. I should have gotten a lawyer and sued. I think they realized that too, and were somewhat afraid to expell me. They were exceedingly polite to me in the meeting.

College - wow... Here I was harrassed by one instructor so openly, and was stupid enough to put it in writing, whereupon I had a papertrail to show lawyers.... so I went to the dean, who investigated, and called me at home to say 'i'll grade all your papers personally' but I didn't feel this was enough so I transferred to another college an hour away and got up at 330 AM every day to commute. Finished my last year this way.

But in my final semester at the new college, it started AGAIN, by another instructer who was also so blatant, so off her rocker.... I had lots of support by my classmates so that was nice.

I'll give you two short examples of the harrassment endured in my final semester of college. I was 27 years old, not a kid ( I waited so long to return to college after high school for exactly this reason. Fear of harrassment)


1. All the students in this class had this large, 800 page textbook that was not required, but all the students had anyway. Except me, I was the only one who had the 1200 page, deluxe edition of the same book - same authors, same publisher. Just an advanced edition with more detail. So, one day, the instructor, who fully knew I had this deluxe editon, announces there is to be an immediately an open book test, using this book. Any answer not containing the PAGE NUMBER where the answer was found, would be counted wrong. If this isn't singeling me out and harrassment, I don't know what is.

2. She would talk to my girlfriend in between classes and tell her to ditch me, and that I was trouble, etc etc. She even once walked into the classroom (my girlfriend was in the same class) and say to her, in front of everyone: "you still with this guy? I'm telling you, that's not good, that's not good." I kid you not.

Of course I formally complained to the Dean, the President, and the Chancellor of Schools for that District. It did no good. The instructor would walk into class and say "some of you think you can get me in trouble for speaking my mind in my own classroom. I got one word for you: tenure."

Anyway, I graduated with honors. Got the Outstanding Student award. This instructor boycotted the graduation ceremony, where she was on the agenda to speak. And the girl? Happily married now for 14 years with 3 kids.

How did it begun?
I was talking weird to them I suppose, then I never understood their jokes,then I never understood sex talk or date like other girls.
What was the harassment like?
It ranged from physical abuse and emotional abuse..All the girls set me up with boys who would pretend to be interested in me then they would stand me up.
What incident had made you said "I had enough" or forced you out of school?
I almost committed suicide in 8th grade. My mom finally understood my problems and I got out of there the next day
Did you tried telling your teacher or administration to resolve the problem?
Everytime it was "IGNORE IT" God I still hate those words.
What did you do after you drop out and before you resume your education?
I went to a special ed program in the city for the remainder of my middle school career
What did you do to continue your education? (Community college, unschooling, home school (home education), GED)
I Went to public high school and graduated among half of the same folk who almost killed me, the other half were expelled/dropped out

I'm gonna start my story different.

My dad was in the air force when I was growing up, so we moved every three years. Worst move was to Altus, OK a small hick town that existed only thanx to a meat packing plant and and air force base. I was emotionally abused for being different, never got in a physical fight (I was so skinny then I guess most bullies figured I wasn't worth the in school suspension). Then I finally found a "friend". Although after a couple weeks, this "friend" would bully me for a set period of time, and then apologize and beg forgiveness. Me being the overly trusting soul at the time, believed him. As time went on, he began abusing me longer and longer until finally in late 1st semester of 8th grade, I finally stopped even trying to hang out with him. The torment continued until that summer when he finally moved.
That same summer, a new person moved in who actually was a good friend and really did accept me for who I am. He got really popular, and I rode his coat tails to glory. Then my family moved here to San Antonio, and we kinda lost touch even though I tried a couple times to send email which he didn't reply. Last I heard, he got married and joined the Marines at 19. He kinda turned into an uberconservative; I guess we just went our seperate ways.

All in all, from what I've seen and heard, girls are meaner to other girls than guys are to other guys. No contest.

I never had to because I stood up for myself against these bullies.

I never finished high school. I think I had anther year or two to go but I ended up skipping school to avoid the people there.

I suffered both physical and mental abuse on a daily basis. the sad/strange part is I ended up working for the School as the Network Administrator after a while instead of completing my work. It was a bit harder for people ot mess with me then since i worked there. but it was still frustrating working there.

I ended up getting another job out of state and eventually ended up where I am now working for myself as a UNIX consultant. I haven't gotten my GED
and It hasn't hurt me much. I'm not so sure how things would have turned out if my special interest wasn't computers.

I'm pretty much scarred for life from the things I had to go through in school though. I would get hurt physically for even trying to talk to people, I had people try and force me to do their work for them. and received lots of verbal abuse and had lots of problems outside of school from he same people I had many alternate routes I would take home form school to avoid people and was in constant fear of getting the crap beat out of me if i walked down the wrong street or ran into the wrong people because this happened often.

I had a lot of pent up rage in me and if God hadn't drawn me to him in 2004 I would likely have either committed suicide (I tried several times when i was in school) or ended up going on a killing spree.

I'm being harassed by a teacher, and I'm not even in school, just to show how sick he is. The fact that it's illegal, wrong, and just plain disgusting means nothing to him.

Yuck.

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Never happened.

nice! violence ftw!

Most of my harrassment came from teachers.

Actually I was normally well liked by teachers in highschool (probably cuz I was quiet and got good grades), though coaches tended to hate me. But I had teachers to watch my back luckily.

Yep. Dropped out at age 15. Don't regret it for a second.

well school was completely a emotional obsticle, I was bullied by 1-2 people most of my school years, 1 was huge and very obese the other one was a punk, the punk only bullied me for a little bit couple pushes. , but the obese one (yeah i'm making fun of that jerk) bullied me all though jr high and high school. not alot of people bullied me cause i took martial arts (taekwondo) and was popular in basketball and was mostly considered to be a computer geek (and no one except computer addicts used computer lab or library computers as well.

Even though i did academically amazing in school 3.8 gpa, i have no idea how i got though those emotional years. but most of school was about boring educational material,migraines and not really getting the help or information on getting a career that i really wanted. Besides the Anxiety i don't regret doing the self employment that i mainly focused on till up to this point. (besides the other crappy jobs I had) I have to say the best career anyone whos a aspie or related issues is self employment, home based business, internet business.