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I only just discovered that I have aspergers last summer. I think that all of my teachers know about it (I'm in secondary school right now) but I'm not really close enough to any of my fellow pupils to tell them (they're all really nice to me but I just can't seem to contribute anything to conversations except rehearsed statements.) But lately a couple of girls have been following me around and trying to get me to make eye contact with them (I have a huge problem with looking people in the eyes) I understand that they're just trying to help and that I should probably be grateful but I keep trying to tell them that I would prefer it if they stopped but they just keep on insisting. I don't want to tell them that I'm on the autism spectrum in case they tell everyone else and I try to avoid them but it doesn't seem to be working. To my knowledge I am the only girl with aspergers in my school so I don't really know who else to talk to.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation or have any advice?

They may just be trying to help, or they may be trying to bully you. Sometimes NT girls decide they want to make a project of helping somebody they consider less than themselves, and will try to boss you around to make you behave the way they think you should with constant criticism. Don't fall for that.

You don't have to tell them you have AS, but you could say something like, "I'm not comfortable with direct eye contact, so please stop trying to force me."

Thank you so much for your advice I really appreciate it!

I'm friends with a girl who is really pretty and smart and an aspie. She's told me about how hard it was for her to learn eye contact, especially because people were always looking at her face.

It's true that the girls might be targeting you for an unpleasant reason, but they also may just like you. You don't have to disclose AS, but I agree with the previous poster that you should say something like, "I'm really uncomfortable with eye contact, so if I look around/down alot, that's why."