Aspies, have you ever gotten punished by the school...

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...and threw a temper tantrum over it? I have, ever since elementary school.

Whenever I had to serve detention or ISS in elementary-middle school, I always cried and yelled really loud. In elementary school, My math teacher had to console me whenever I cried and disturbed detention.

In intermediate and middle school, the assistant principal had to tell me to calm down, and when that failed, my mom was called and she took care of it over the phone.

Never threw a temper tantrum over detentions, but I did complain. I'm an easy going student who 99% of the time follows the rules. But I got two detentions for lame reasons. First one was because I was whispering during a movie in class, but I didn't even get a warning before I got handed the detention, and the person was asking me a dang question and I was just answering it. The second detention was given to me because my taxi driver said that we weren't quiet on our way to school and so we all got detentions, even though I was listening to my CD player the whole way to school and never even opened my mouth. Both of those detentions pissed me off, but I didn't cry.

Wouldn't it be considered more of a 'meltdown' than a 'tantrum'? Note, I'm not telling, I'm asking -- My cup is not full.

My son is AS (diagnosed) and I consider myself (AS) undiagnosed.

We were attending a hunters' safety course together one time, and the instructor singled him out and scolded him for doing what others in the class were doing too. And then scolded him again for "not paying attention" (think of the Scene from the first Harry Potter movie where Snape ridicules Harry during class.)

I was suffering from low self esteem in those years and I had a lot of feelings about what was happening but was not willing to stand up. I stewed about it for years, and now I *really* *really* *really* *reeeeally* wish I had stood up, gave the instructor a piece of my mind, and left. Then I would have written the state for a refund, even though I wouldn't have gotten it.

My son on the other hand just tries to lie low and let the whole thing blow over. Even when he was suspended for unfair reasons from Jr. high. I guess that could be considered wise.

When I was in school, "punishment" meant getting your ass whacked with a hard wooden paddle (usually with holes drilled in it to cut down on wind resistance). Throwing a tantrum was just a good way to get many, many more whacks. The only rational thing to do was take the first 3 or 5, and go back to your seat and behave, unless you enjoyed getting 10 or 15 or 20.

If they had to call your parents, it was even worse, because getting in trouble at school automatically meant getting twice the punishment from your Dad when you got home, only he used his thin leather belt instead of a wooden paddle.

Tantrums and meltdowns were not a problem.

I got punished several times in elementary school and few times in middle school.
I never reacted with a trantum or a meltdown because they weren't the kind of things that triggered a meltdown for me (I usually had meltdowns when too many people were talking around me/because of other sensory overloads or when someone commented on something I did/teased me when I had already woken up in a bad mood that day).
In elementary school I was punished several times.
Once in 2nd grade I was punished because I had got up from my sit without permission. In 3rd grade I was punished some times for not having done my homework. In 4th grade and 5th grade I used to be punished a lot because I had gotten very oppositional and defiant by that time; I was usually punished for not having done my homework/not bringing the school material. I didn't even care anymore about being punished by that time.
I remember that once in 5th grade I was punished for having started to laugh uncontrollably during the math class. The teacher had asked me to write on a paper several times that I was wrong and to explain the reasons why I was wrong. That is not what I did but I actually wrote down that other kids didn't behave better than I did and I wrote some of the nasty stuff my classmates used to do. The teacher didn't complain when she read the paper.
Another time in 2nd grade a math substitute wanted to punish me because I had moved from the place she had assigned to me (I was in a desk next to a girl who teased me and took my stuff without my permission). I asked her why I couldn't move, and she went on about how she was a "life teacher" for me and every other kid in my class and that would have been the reason why I had to obey her. Then I told that she was not my "life teacher" but that my father was and he didn't tell me not to move from my place. She then said it was ok and allowed me to stay in my new place.
In middle school I got punished few times.
In 7th grade I got punished for kicking a classmate of mine and in 8th grade all my class was suspended for a day but it was not because of me but because of some of two classmates of mine. That day of suspension was actually like a vacation day for me.

My son will be in his first, and hopefully last, detention tomorrow.

Despite having been warned about it before, he took his phone out in class, lied about why he had it out, then was rude to the classroom assistant.

I am punished mentally by not being allowed to express myself as a person instead of a number, so yes, I am punished.

I've never had a detention in my life, that's just because I like rules and have no reason to break them. However, I am very confrontational and stubborn, and although I never intentionally do anything wrong, I don't admit when I made mistakes. I have done things like forgetting books and stuff and should've got a detention for but since I have a good reputation and the ability to talk my way out of things, I didn't. At primary school I used to fight quite a lot but I never got in trouble because the other kids used to tease/provoke me.

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I got a few slaps on the wrist but never anything major.

My favorite was I was late to school the last week of senior year, and one of the teachers was making a big deal out of and I said "Look, I'm allowed 3 unexcused lateness, and this is the last week of senior year."

She gave me a touche nod.