Aspies, do you like to go to parties with loud booming music

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Aspies, do you like to go to parties with loud booming music? I can tolerate it, but I'm afraid it might damage my ears.

I don't have any sensory sensitivity issues and I like to watch girls grind, but I'm shy about dancing myself.

Never been to one, so I can't say one way or the other of I like them.

Tim

The closest thing was my prom, but my mind was too focused on the fact that I was stood up that I didn't take notice.

Tim

Hell no. Can't stand loud music. I always had to go out in the hallway at dances. They make my ears sore and ring.

No, I dislike them.

If it is too loud, that rules out talking with anyone that's there that I know. While this can be a good thing, if I don't want to talk to the person, its a bad thing if I do. Simply put, no talking (easily,) that's one thing off the list of possible activities.

Loud music => dancing. I don't get the point. I never have. People have said "Come on, come dance!" and I have flat out said no. It isn't that I don't know how (I have a feeling if I really wanted to, I could pick it up) it is that I don't understand why. Most people I know consider it fun. I consider it really....really odd. That wasn't on my list of possible activities to begin with, even if it would involve an attractive member of the opposite sex awkwardly rubbing up against me. (Key word in that is awkward. Another one would have been unlikely. )

What's that leave? Uh.... drinking games. Many of those are rather dull if it doesn't involve some form of talking. There's a couple, but I'd rather do those in a setting where I could hear people, and things. Same goes for heavy drinking. IF I actually feel the need to drink heavily for no apparent reason, again, I'd rather do so in a quieter setting.

I don't think there's anything left on my list of possible activities, so it basically results in me standing around awkwardly and drinking on whatever drink I have, wondering when it would be "ok" to leave.

Absolutely not. A girl I used to date made me go to a bar once in order to socialize with and prove that I existed to the wider group of her friends to whom I was possibly a figment of her imagination and I was absolutely miserable. Loud music and lots of televisions and neon lights giving me a headache, people all up in my personal space, painful attempts at small-talk with perfect strangers. My God, that was one of the most awful nights of my life. As soon I stepped out of that place it was as if I had been revived from a near-death experience.

Yes, but I don't like talking to strangers. If I don't get chatted up it's fine.

I'd rather stay home and have a cuppa Tea.

Hell no - I hate those kinds of places. I've been dragged into a nightclub a few times (twice to the one in my hometown, and twice to one in the town where I went to university), and every single time I loathed it, because the music was too loud, there were too many strangers close to me, and I couldn't really tell what was going on.

Nobody touched me, though, which was a good thing. I think I'd have freaked out if they'd started touching my head...

No, not really. I went to a birthday party of a relative of mine last night. I stopped there two hours but when the disco thing started up I decided that it was time to leave. It wasn't as if I could just up and go as the function was being held in another village, several miles away from the small town where I live. I was very tired towards the end. I find that my social skills tend to go out the window when I'm put under pressure like that. I'd had quite a few drinks too but I was mainly tired. If they'd bought another drink I'd have just got up and walked out to the pub across the road there. At least I could hear myself think. Reflecting upon it, I tend to think that blood is thicker than water so I didn't mind too much. I still had a headache for an hour or two after though.

I'm going to have to disagree with most people here. Unless the music is bad or I'm just "not in the zone", I like parties. It usually takes me anywhere from 10 minutes to 2 hours to relax completely, but I start enjoying the party after that. I relax by loading up on alcohol, then joining a group in a game or conversation. This method never failed me.

It depends on the music and the crowd. My college has a pretty good student run night club in the commons (it is surprisingly good if that is the sort of thing you're into), but I rarely go. I just can't get into bump and grind dancing. As others have said, it is just too awkward and the few times I've done it have been disasters.

On the other hand, I really love smaller parties (like 20 or less people). I am a theater major and most the other majors are big partiers. Last night about 12 of us got together at a guys apartment and played the Snakes on a Plane drinking game. It was a good time even though no one wanted to sit anywhere near me. The biggest thing I hate about college parties is the mentality towards alcohol. Everyone seems to want to get as dunk as possible, as fast as possible, as cheap as possible. I, on the other hand, I like alcohol primarily for the flavor, intoxication is just a pleasant bonus. I'm going to a party tonight where I will be mixing drinks for myself. I have the makings for vodka and gin martinis, manhattans, and gin and tonics. Everyone else will just be doing shots and cheap beer.

The last time I was invited to a party and went was three years ago, and I severely disliked it, but not strictly because of the loud music. Although, that is a large part of the reason why I hate parties.

Only when I host them. Which I I had done a total of zero times. At my parties, if you want music you can leave!

Alcohol dulls what few objections I have to loud music, especially heavy metal.

I dislike all loud concerts, even those of rock or pop artists I enjoy, with the exception of the symphony. Firstly, I am concerned about my hearing. I have in the past been forced to stand near the loud speakers during music concerts our church youth group has attended. (Nor do I like Christian music.) I have left the group and sat in the bleachers on the sides of the arena. I've also tried earplugs. Secondly, I do not like the noise and the crowd. I don't feel comfortable being so close to other people and feeling obligated to do the same thing everyone else is doing at the same time (jump, do gang symbols, etc.). This dislike has extended into my dating life, unfortunately. I will not go to the typical loud concert as a date. That said, I have yet to try alcohol's dulling effect on the concert experience, and watching girls grind I might be able to tolerate.