problems with my lecturer

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hello

I don't want to go back into his lesson for the reason explained below. he is a piss taker and im not good with that. I feel like I may hit him, I have certainly thought about it. I feel fear and have felt uneasy about going back in. I don't like the comments he gives me in front of others. I understand that this may be his way of communicating, but if I try to play along he may get worse which I wont be able to handle. the age range of students is 19 - 34, im the oldest student the next youngest is 26. he has made comments before about me for others amusement. I don't feel that it is friendly. I believe it is fun for him. I don't know what to do, this is the part where I ask for opinions. next Monday, 12th may, I go back. I was thinking about approaching a head of department but that may make it worse because people will talk about it. I have another year there. if I tell him to f***off I could get into trouble, he could start more problems and an argument in front of others which I think may cause me to hit him.
any advice would be great,
thank you


im 34 and at college after taking redundancy to get away from my awful job. im studying electronics which is a little tricky. im terrible at maths and the technical stuff is some times a little too technical. I have a good math lecturer who is very good with communication and very approachable. if I feel stupid I can still approach her and ask her a question with out intimidation.
however, there is a lecturer who talks a little too fast and in a manner that suggests everyone understands everything he says. then, when people are working trying to figure things out he will spend maybe 30 minutes with one person explaining things to them. this suggests that im not the only person struggling with what hes saying.
I don't sleep sunday night and the course runs all day Monday from 9am until 8pm. so without sleep and four hours of maths (not including the slightly easier subjects), by the time his lesson comes round im almost asleep. certainly my brain is switching off. I ask for help a lot. last Monday I found that he was a little upset with me. he walked through the door and asked everyone for the recent assignment to be handed in. I had a question about something and asked. I asked him to write it down using pen and paper as I don't like him talking to me in front of the class. he started explaining things and I confirmed that I understood that. I explained a little further what my problem was, he repeated his actions a little louder then started to make comments about me not thinking about the question. he started making comments about how he shouldn't be spoon feeding me and that at this level if im not able to think about it I shouldn't be doing it. he made another comment about seeing me (from a distance) outside college and asked if it was me I confirmed maybe it was me. he said he was glad he didn't approach me. then he asked me if had gotten a job yet and walked off before I could answer. his tone and manner seemed odd. I didn't know what I had done wrong.

Why not continue to seek advice from the lady lecturer (I'm glad she still seems like she cares), and just sit in class with that lecturer whom you want to hit, without consulting him.

Do the lady and the jerk teach the same or similar things? If they do, it's even better.

Or maybe, if it exists, join a study group which caters to what the uncaring lecturer teaches.

hello


thanks for the reply!
there isn't a study group and the lady only teaches two subjects. the jerk teaches one at the end of the day when im falling asleep.
I have emailed him a few times but he doesn't answer my emails and he doesn't use the online college moodle to post examples or addition information about course work. other lecturers do.

hello

no I don't have a diagnosis, at my age it is difficult to get one. it costs a lot of money. I have been thinking about how I will behave toward him as I think he is expecting a certain type of behavior from me. in the past I have been submissive and excepting of his comments which are mostly derogatory. he mentioned that maybe instead of electronics I go work in a care home for old people.
this time I will stare at him, wait for his comment and try to fire back with something. not a joke but a more stern response like im putting my foot down. I don't like the idea of this as I will be watched by others who I think are preying on me. looking for weakness that they can exploit. people saying "you cant take it". I wont like this and I think this will make it more difficult for me in this situation. I will try to remain calm though I think it will get worse. im expecting him to notice my tension, back off and try something else. I think a more aggressive "joke" would be better. I am thinking about comments that would suggest his age and state compared to mine and hint at violent behavior. the problem is what could happen as a result. if he complains about me. that worries me more. I think they could expel me without to much hassle. I have another year to go, £2000 and a year invested so far. I will try to speak to him out side the class room before the lesson starts. this way he wont have an audience, which I think he likes.

any advice would be great.
I was thinking about calling the head of the department, tell him that I have a job in the evening for the next 4 months and I cant make that lesson. then ask if I could drop off any course work elsewhere for the lecturer. this seems very cowardly though. I don't like it so much.

all the best
simon